Real Life Bride Wars?

Different personalities. Chances are she does that with many other topics. My boss, no matter what the conversation, makes it about her.

It happened once and I didn't care. Honestly, just move on.

So long as it is not like your sister or someone who you are going to be around all the time who will constantly be doing this to you, I wouldn't worry about it. Some people just don't see value in conversation unless they are at the center of it.

I have a coworker that would always change conversations to her wedding. Most time she would barge into a discussion that she wasn't originally part of. Mind you, she was married like 5 years ago and divorced after 2.

I have a friend like that. I feel awkward around her after finding out that she told a BM that she shouldn't be pinning to my wedding board on Pinterest because her wedding is first. Now I'm afraid to talk about my wedding or mention my engagement at all around her. I'm still mad but I don't want to stir up drama with her.

I've had this happen but surprise, my wedding was a year out and hers was coming up soon. So I totally let it go, of course hers is more immediate. People get wedding brain and loose all social grace.

It's someone I'm friends with, not best friends but we have a best friend in common. And she constantly does this. It wouldn't bother me if it wasn't constant. She tried to make everything a competition. I wasn't about that. It just bothered me because it made me wonder what the hell I did to her to deserve this. I usually keep to myself about like everything. And I'm going through a rough time right now so thinking about and getting excited for my wedding is the only thing getting me through it, and she just can't let me have that I guess.

I have a friend that does this. She got engaged a month before me, but her wedding is next year mid year, and mine is this year. All she talks about is her wedding and how no one better ask her to do anything because she has her wedding shes saving for blah blah blah.. She isn't coming to our destination wedding and had the NERVE to make it crystal clear to me that if i don't come to her wedding next year she will be really upset and hurt.. THE NERVE! Oh the best part.. she put me on to a wonderful bridal shop she found and i made an appointment there. She had her appointment first ( which I wasn't invited to) then called the salon back and asked for my appointment time and date, explained to the lady that we were friends, and scheduled her second appt 30 mins BEFORE my first one! UMMMMMM are you freaking serious!!! Once I expressed that I wasn't okay with it.. she says to me " i should've known you would want all eyes on you" as if that's the kind of person i am.... BUT the last time i checked, I'm a bride just like she is , so why would that seem taboo that i wouldnt want to share my very first dress appointment with someone else!

Isn't it annoying??? Like I usually don't care about getting attention and this is actually a time I want it so it's annoying feeling like there's someone who has to 1 up you constantly. We are different people with different lives and of course our weddings are different so why are they getting compared? There's no need for it. One is not better than the other.

Kristie it is so annoying! I have to make a private wedding board on Pinterest because the same friend I spoke about earlier commented on the boots I want for the wedding and said she wanted those. I know it's just Pinterest, and it's silly, but I feel like I can't have what I want because she believes she is entitled to it because her wedding is first. I'm still going to get the boots I want I just feel like I'm copying her now.

That's how I felt about most things too! and I had a similar Pinterest problem. Hers was first and she used some of my bridesmaid gift ideas, we have one in common so it's going to look like I copied her. Altogether I don't get why they were comparing. It's completely different.

I had a real life bride war- literally.

Best friend stole my wedding date. Literally. Oh, and my theme. Making friends chose? Douche move.

So, just remember.. it could be worse!

Oh my goodness Jenn that is horrible! I cannot even imagine what that must have been like.

It could definitely be worse in that sense. That really sucks I'm so sorry. I'm assuming best friend no more?

My cousin is getting married a month after I am. She has already told me that she is having her bachelorette party on the one weekend I was going to do mine on, and that I can't have mine then so all our other cousins can go to hers. She is getting married NEXT APRIL. She also tells me every time she books something (and because we're in the same area, we both know exactly what these people cost because we've called the same places). She is one upping basically everything I've done so far.

I'm really sorry I know she's related to you and all but what a bitch......I hope you aren't telling her anything. That's what I've done with my situation. That way my events are legitimate surprises. She posted things on social media when she did them so people knew what a lot of things were going to look like. Our themes are very different thank goodness though. The only 2 people who know what everything looks like other than their own gifts are FH and my mother.

My venue takes care of most things and she knows what the venue is and what I'm getting out of it with vendors, but specifics like my accessories and cake and flowers, I'm not sharing if I can help it. My mom shares pretty much everything I do with my aunt though, so that's fun. She'll also know exactly what my shower is going to be since our moms agreed to host each others daughter's shower. I do know she's going for a wine theme and has her parents paying for a lot, so they'll end up with higher quality things. We're just trying to have people enjoy themselves and we'll be happy. I'll probably completely ignore her request on the bachelorette party if that's the only weekend that works, considering every month is busy before that with a friend's wedding and the holidays... plus I wasn't planning to invite all of my cousins anyway.

Happened with some friends. "Sue" had a long engagement. Several months after setting her date, "Ann" set her wedding date 6 weeks before Sue's. Ann seriously put Sue to work as a bridesmaid, all the while taking ideas from Sue's wedding and dismissing other ideas as tacky or undesirable. It was frustrating for Sue. Ann is known for being unintuitive, so I don't think she knew.

Ha.. definitely best friends no more.

We haven't spoken since she set her date. Such a shame.

I wish none of it had to be that way. It stinks because you don't wanna sound like them, but I need to quote Emma from Bridewars "I'm a bride too, I'm number 1 too!" lol