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View Quoted Comment Thanks for your input. Didn’t contact her because I really don’t care about the friendship. When you really care about the friendship you go above and beyond to work things out but we had a lot of issues prior to the wedding situation. I just gave y’all the fast version. I feel the way I do and I have my reasons why so can’t nobody make me feel any different.

People really show their true colors when good things begin to happen in your life! I invited a few family friends (friends of my family that have known me since I was a baby) to my wedding, and none of them bothered to show up! Even had a number of guests RSVP, and they didn't bother to show either! What really hurt me was when a sister from my church, whom I was very close to, had gotten married and I attended her wedding. She even asked my son to be in her wedding, and I allowed him to be. When my day came around, a few years later, she couldn't attend because she had to decorate for a church function! Her daughter had gotten married a few years before her, and I was there for her wedding, as well. She was also invited and didn't show up! That was money my husband and I could have kept in our pockets. I was so hurt that neither of them made the effort to show support for me that day.

Yup. Lost family through my wedding planning process. Really shows true colors

Get rid of those toxic friends. Life is too short

One of my bridesmaids, I found out, wasn't a real friend, and wasn't a friend at all. She was difficult as a bridesmaid from the beginning. She refused to have her make up done by a professional even though I offered to pay for it (this was pre-covid and it wasn't hygiene related) - she insisted that only she knew how to make herself look beautiful. Then she insisted that I invite her boyfriend or else she didn't want to come (we didn't allow plus-ones). On the wedding day she made many sarcastic comments (were noticed by my mom and husband) and berated me multiple times for stepping on my dress while walking.

Then after the wedding, her boyfriend broke up with her and she stopped talking to me altogether and actually did some things behind my back to make my life difficult. She always had a victim mentality and I was always there for her. But after 20 years of friendship (we met when we were in primary school), I realized that she was jealous of me now because I had found happiness. She was there for me when I was suffering during early adulthood, so I thought she was a good friend. But the truth was that could only be friends with me when she thought I was feeling miserable. She couldn't stand that I was happily married and she was single.

I really regret asking her to be a bridesmaid. I felt we had a friendship spanning decades and she was very close to me. I should've seen how difficult she was during the wedding planning and known that she wasn't happy for me. Every other bridesmaid helped out and was never difficult. But at the same time I'm very glad I found out now and not years down the track when I've invested even more time and energy into our "friendship".

My husband and I ran into a lot of friends that would give us the stupidest and craziest reasons for not being able to go to our wedding, it was insane. I think the worse excuse was having to study for a test, even though our wedding was on a three day weekend.