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People are seriously the worst. This is, unfortunately, something that you and your FW will just have to work through. We can't change people's minds. You have every right to be angry and upset, but once you're ready to look at the bright side, be happy that they've made it so easy to weed the bad apples out of your lives. Cut off those relationships and be happy knowing that you will only have wedding guests who truly support you.

Wow, I am so sorry! I can’t believe there are still so many small minded people in the world. But hey, when you look back on pictures and video of your wedding, at least you will see the people who loved you and stood behind you, instead of fake people who didn’t support your relationship.
Also, if you find there are very few people planning to attend your ceremony, you can always contemplate an elopement or a fun destination wedding with only those closest to you!

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Oh I agree! This wedding planning process is opening my FW's eyes to how A LOT of her family truly feels about her and her lifestyle and it is heartbreaking to watch. I know at the end of it we will come out with an even stronger support system because we will know who we can truly rely on, but just that learning process sucks!

Oh honey I am so sorry. It is sad how people's bigotry exists to this day and blinds them to see that love is love. I hate to suggest this as I do not want to add fuel to the fire...do you two want to just elope? Although, for me even if your wedding is mostly made up of friends then let it be that way. Honey, I get the toxic people and I have family that even if I were having a big wedding I would not want them there.

You have every right to be upset and while this is easier said than done plan the best wedding you two can and for those that do not want to be there then DEUCES to them! You two deserve a beautiful day and honestly it will make you two happy for those that took the time to show up.

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Oh she is dead set on having a nice big wedding now so that they can see the fun that they are missing out on which is perk for me! But I agree we will come out knowing who is truly behind us and stands on our side and will know that when we go to have children who we can rely on.

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We have talked about eloping, but I really want a wedding and now she does too just so they can see that their negativity isn't going to stop our love. Anyone who has said anything negative about our relationship has been taken off of our list and will not be invited and so we are starting to add more friends and such and we will make sure that it is a day that is full of love!

I'm so sorry, that's really rough and having to deal with it about an event that's supposed to be one the happiest of your lives is a downer. Just remember if they don't want to be there then you don't want them there! Plus, less money, more social distancing room, less risk, less stress! Another thing I focus on is- "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Family is who you love and who loves you. ❤

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Listen. The money you may save from less people...GO BIG! I mentioned eloping since I know you were both having family issues with attendance but hey you two deserve the big day so have it. You know what...family is not blood. I have girlfriends that are more ride or die for me and if I think of my aunt Imogene whom my mother trusted to look after my big bro and I when she passed...her family was more family to us than our real family and she has been the example of what an aunt it and we are not blood related. Honestly, the people coming to our ceremony (big bro included) are the people we wanted to celebrate with and it is my bestie and her hubby. Your friends can show you what true love is sometimes more than family and that is okay. Your day will be awesome no matter what. Ignore the ignorant people and you are right to remove them. Their loss.

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That is what I am thinking is GO BIG! When I get home we are going to sit and redo the guest list and then have to redo the budget which means we will get to up the photography package to the one that we really wanted. So it works out in the end! That is what she is learning is that the her blood isn't as thick as she thought and I hate seeing her learn this tough lesson so late in life.

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"Family is who you love and who loves you." I love that! Thank you!

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I know and it is hard and she will be hurt but I think seeing the good things come out of it and the people that will be there for you two. It is okay to be disappointed as that is with any wedding but I hope things really turn around for the happier.

Im so sorry people can be so ignorant! Ugh well just know that there IS lots of love and support in this world and I hope you receive it

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Thank you!!

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Thank you Melle!

I'm so very sorry. People suck! I come from a very religious family so if I were gay (which I'm not) I'm sure they probably would've been the same way. However, I am not that way at all. I think it is awful that they don't want to support their relative.

I am sorry this is happening to you guys . I think that is plain ignorance and rude for people to say that. It is a wedding and people are supposed to be celebrating love. It is better to think of it as if they are this rude about the save the dates, then they do not need to be there!

Well would you want people there at your wedding who doesn't support you? just move on and smile. You and your SO go and have a wedding with people who love and respect your choices and let the ones who don't support you see how much fun your having. if you want to elope elope you want to have your big wedding have the wedding not everyone is going to agree with you and as much as it sucks focus on the people who do agree with you you only get one shot to make your wedding the way you want it so make it the way you want it

Some people can be so awful and never know when not to say anything. There comes a point where you have to cut out the toxicity. So sorry you have to deal with this. The bright side is you have each other and your friends in attendance who love you no matter what. The rest don't matter.

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It is super frustrating and heartbreaking to watch her heart be broken by people who are now claiming to be religious, but haven't been to church in years. I can't roll my eyes hard enough.

Wow people are the worst, I'm sorry you are going through this. But better to find out now than to waste money on feeding them at the wedding! You definitely don't want people who don't support you there.