Rant!!! No, I'm not doing a garter toss...

I hit one this past weekend. We were talking flowers with a family friend and for 5 minutes she kept saying, use this flower, I really think you should use this flower, you have to use this flower. I don't like he flower. I kept saying thank you I am still thinking flowers and she kept saying it. It gets very anoying.

Honestly, I am 100% with you, I am not doing either of these things-- glad I am not the only one who wants no part of this at my wedding!

I'm not doing the garter/bouquet toss. I'm not doing the father/daughter dances. I'm not doing the clinking of the glass. I'm not doing prayers. We are not writing our own vowels. We are having "regular" music at the ceremony instead of "classical" or "piano". We are having our mothers' walk us down the aisle, not our fathers. We are not doing assigned seating. We are not doing a lot of "traditional things"! And WE DGAF what people say about it! lol

Not doing the garter or bouquet toss, not having father / daughter or mother / son dances, I'm walking myself down the aisle and I'm wearing my converse at my reception dammit! It's our day and we're doing things our way. I've certainly made some concessions along the way but this is the way it's going to be. And I'm so with you ... I'm over planning and I just want to be married!

I'm in the same boat as you. It's so frustrating!

I dont want to do them either. I think we will have 5 or less single people at our wedding and I think it will just look embarrasing. But FH has an idea in his head how a wedding should look and what he wanted for his. The garter toss, more groomsmen...he thinks he will be missing out on these traditions. Which i feel, we dont have many friends, and we have more family that eats up the guest list. It's just who we are, I'm not trying to exclude these traditions to hurt him, its just to make the wedding ours...if that makes sense.

ETA: oh and dont get me started on FMIL upset over us not having a ring bearer.

I am not doing a bouquet/garter toss either. Between having few singles guests and feeling pressured to participate at other weddings, these are two of the first decisions I made. A friend who got married a few months ago keeps trying to tell me I should do one (I swear its because her young daughters liked it and they would probably be the only ones participating). I just keep saying I am not doing it when it's mentioned.

I had people come up to me and thank me for not doing the garter toss.

I think the bouquet toss and garter toss are awkward and embarrassing. We're skipping it and I'm not wearing a garter. I'm not really sure what purpose the garter serves anyway.

Well some people in the family think we should just have one color and that blue and purple would look awful, but really I have put those two colors together and thats what I want to do! so thats what I will do

I'm not doing a garter toss either, and I'm on the fence about a bouquet toss. Our entire wedding is consisting of family and like, 5 friends. It would be awkward to do either of them.

I am not throwing anything either. Some people just do not realize/understand that a lot of brides think this is incredibly tacky and old fashioned not to mention it is SUPER awkward to have a bouquet/garter toss when none of your friends are single.

We didn't do either toss. My mom's best friend wanted me to, so I bought a garter. But it never happened (and I didn't remind anyone).

Honestly, we had maybe 4 single people at the wedding. Why draw attention to their single-ness?

Not doing the tosses either bc we'll have like 5 single GUYS at the wedding..not one single girl.. so yeah. People just want to act like tradition trumps what the bride and groom want. Just do your thang.

Oh and get THIS!! So my invites were due yesterday, and this bit was invited and STILL has not given me an answer as to whether she is coming or not! She is sitting one desk away from me!

I am praying she doesn't want to "waste" a vacation day on me since its on a friday at noon...

We're not doing a bouquet/garter toss either. Out of 90 or so guests getting invited, I think maybe 4 are single. And I know that when I was single I always HATED getting singled out (no pun intended) to do the bouquet toss. A lot of the time I would just stay in my seat. I may wear a garter, but if I do, it will be for FI's eyes only.

Elisabeth - I don't know about the Mother/Son dance (FI will do what he wants for that, we haven't discussed it yet), but I know what I'm thinking of doing for both the Father/Daughter dance and the first dance, is have us dance along for part of the song and then have other people join in. Because I don't like people just watching me dance, either.

I feel you just do what you want and not worry about what other people think. I had a moment with this last week, when I was figuring out what cake I wanted. I found a cake design that I love, but I realized that the cake topper that I want with not go with it at all - wrong colors, look weird with the design, all that. But I reeeeally wanted the cake topper. But then I thought about it and said, screw it, I can do whatever I want. Ran the idea by FI, and now we're having no cake topper on our cake and the cake topper will be up in front of us at the head table.