Rant!!! No, I'm not doing a garter toss...

Yup, I'm so tired of people's opinions.... so I started planning the honeymoon instead, because the ONLY opinion that matters is my FH's. Its so much nicer lol.

I'm not doing a bouquet or garter toss either - I'll probably still wear a garter for the tradition of it, but we're not tossing it. You don't have to explain your decision to anyone, especially a coworker.

I hear you! And the worst thing is, I felt obligated to invite her because I invited two other co-workers that work really close together in my area. Well, guess who still hasn't given me a response back and they are due today?? this Bit!!! She even made a snarky comment last week when I had said half jokingly that I was going to start calling people on the 10th if I dont have their response and was like " well I guess I won't be giving you mine til the 11'th! I want to say, well, you are uninvited!! But shame on me for inviting co-workers to my small wedding.

I hate people. It sounds like she's a complete bitch. Don't listen to her. I'm not having a bouquet or garter toss either. I just don't like them so I'm not doing it. Honestly, she's probably giving you a hard time because she's jealous.

I'm going to keep my fingers crossed for you that she can't go She sounds like a big jerk!

Thank you! I'm crossing my fingers/toes and praying! It is on a friday, so maybe she wont want to use a vacation day on me...

@kristen, yeah she probably is. Ever since I started planning this thing, she has been shoving unwanted ideas and vendors my way. Because he son got married and she knows all now that she is a wedding planner!

People are complete idiots. I got to the point at my work where I stopped talking about my wedding because people were pissing me off so bad. Even when they asked about it I would reply in the shortest sentence ever then change the subject. Tell her to shove a garter up her ass!

Hahaha. Yeah. My family is pretty poor. But I got myself a decent job so I'm not poor anymore. So they have tried giving me a couple ideas and I'm just like... no.... just, no... Like I said we were having a photo booth and an aunt said to just put up a bed sheet on the wall and put a digital camera on the table and have your guests take turns taking their pictures. I responded that I will look at my options, then went away to talk to someone else. Like, no. Just, no. We can afford $500 for a photo booth and it's much better than a bed sheet and a digital camera on the table. Another aunt keeps sending me Halloween-esq things for centerpieces that basically look like they are for kid's parties. I LOVE Halloween and our wedding will be fall themed. So I appreciate the help. But our wedding will be a little fancier than a child's birthday party. Just saying. I also have been told by multiple family members that I just need to find a dress at Goodwill, even if I don't like it, for like $20. I ended up buying a $1,300 dress, so poo on them

Hah! Kathleen you are cracking me up! This is why I come on this site! It feels good to get it off my chest, that way, I don't stab a bitch and go to jail! thanks girls.

@Macksgirl- this is some sound advice, love it! I try not to talk about my wedding now because of this very reason and she thinks something is wrong, like we arent going through with it, if im not constantly gabbing about it. Just GTFO of my business!

Yes miss, you are so right! people have a vision of what a "traditional" wedding should be. While I am keeping some things traditional, others can just go by the wayside. Like the garter/bouquet toss for instance. We will have about 5 single people at our wedding and that's just weird. Also, still not sure If I'm doing a father/daughter mother/son dance. I'm not that close to my dad and the space to dance in the restaurant is quite limited. I know people are gonna shit over that one! He is walking me down the aisle, but I was even a bit reluctant to do that.

You should whatever you damn well please with your wedding - anyone who is putting down your decisions can just shove it where the sun don't shine! It is one thing to help be constructive (only when the bride asks for honest feedback), but it is just flat out rude to make those type of comments. Every single one of us is unique, so no two weddings should be the same (unless you really are Stepford Wife).

FH and I aren't doing a mother/son or a father/daughter dance, and it is my uncle walking me down the aisle. We got SOO much flack for this from my side of the family, but I politely told them that it was our decision...they don't understand how we think or how we feel, so they need to keep their opinions to themselves. We weren't too keen on the idea of doing the bouquet or garter toss, but we decided to do it only for the sake of my mom. She wanted me to have a fairy tale type wedding and well, that definitely isn't happening (no white dress, no ball gown, no veil, etc.). So we decided to give her this piece of "tradition" that will be over in a matter of 5 minutes.

Just ignore them. They're all just jealous they aren't in the spotlight anymore.

Hahaha. Yes. Jail is bad. As I told my fiance one day "I don't want to be around them because then I will have to murder them and then I'll go to jail. And I won't do well in jail. You have to publicly take a shower and go to the bathroom. You know I just can't do that." He said he was relieved I felt that way

I am also considering not doing a garter toss. We will have maybe 3 people over 18 who are not married (I'm the youngest in my extended family, at 25 years old). And I always feel uncomfortable during those events and I'm not even the one doing it! But I might buy a garter set just for boudoir pictures. We'll see.

We aren't doing a garter toss or bouquet toss either, and some people definitely felt the need to chime in about how it was the "wrong" decision. I just told them it was my "wrong" decision to make and I'm sure I would be able to live with it. It's crazy how many people feel the need to tell you how your wedding should be (you would not believe the reactions I got from people when I told them one of the dresses I tried on was ombre with a lavender/pink bottom. I didn't get it, but you'd think the world was going to end just because I considered it!) My mom is actually 100% on my side - she was like do whatever you want, it's your wedding (I heart my mom, she rocks).

FH and I are having a small wedding, just our parents as guests. I have had two different people tell me I should invite more people so we can get more gifts…

We don't expect to receive any gifts and that is perfectly fine! I thought that was super annoying for some one to say!!

Preach! I feel your pain. No, we are not having a garter toss. No we are not having a bouquet toss (I think my single friends are well aware they are single without us pointing it out). No, we are not doing a cake cutting (quote from our photographer "That is usually the least favorite photo anyway"). No, we aren't staying in separate hotel rooms on our wedding night (I think god and everyone in between can't be fooled that we have lived together for the last 3 years). I wish I could take pictures of the jaws hitting the floor on the last one.

"But the tradition!!!! You are ruining your wedding!!" Yeah, OK guess I am!

We aren't doing a garter removal, garter toss or bouquet toss either. When people made suggestions I would say that's on option and change the conversation.

OMG! I'm not doing bouquet or garter toss either! And yes, my fsil/fw's MOH was trying to change my wedding colors and get me to use mason jars, trying to turn my wedding into a HILLBILLY SHINDIG! And I'm not saying mason jars are a hillbilly thing, just is what they make me think of, probably from living in WV for so long! At this point I'm glad she lives out of state, because our tastes are SO different! And I just noticed.. what a coincidence, the fsil I am referring to has the same last name! Sullivan!

Skipping the garter/bouquet also We only have about 15 of 150 guests that are over 15, under 60 and not married. And I'm getting a special bouquet from my FBIL - so I'm definitely not throwing it! We're also doing the father/daughter, Mother/son dance - just because none of us like people staring at us.

BM hates the wedding colors: IDGAF

FMIL dislikes my dress: IDGAF

Multiple people don't like my pseudo-geek theme: IDGAF

(Bonus -LOTS of people have responded really well to my plans to use mostly wooden flower (centerpieces/bouts/corsages) - which I figured would get more pushback/complaints)

I feel much better now! thanks ladies!

@coseptbride & elisabeth- you are too funny! Love the IDGAF comments too.

Angie-hmmm maybe we are related ha!!

I get the same type of stuff! Even worse, when I tell people that I'm not doing a garter toss because personally, I find it tacky - instead of accepting my opinion, they spend all of this wasted time & energy coming up with ways to make it "less tacky"... NO. I don't want to do it. I'm not doing it. End of story. If I wanted suggestions on how to make it work for me, I would ask. Otherwise - STFU!