Rant- I don't want to invite my sister to my wedding

I'm not inviting one of my sisters. Then again, I haven't spoken to her in almost 15 years. Someone asked me if I planned on inviting her. When I said no, I was asked why I wouldn't want to use my wedding as a way to patch things up with her. Seriously?? Why would I use my wedding to mend a broken relationship with her?

If your sister can't show up to your engagement party because she can't be civilized, she probably won't go to your wedding.

I totally get what your saying, try to ignore those that go off topic. Are you normally close with your sister? If you don't invite her, I'm sure she will hold that against you at some point and ruin the relationship. It seems like you are far beyond caring at this point but she's still your sister. If it was a flaky friend, I'd be quicker to say cut them out of it. Just invite her like you would a distant cousin and leave the ball her court. If she doesn't come you can rest easy knowing that you did the right thing.

I think it was kind of nice that your sister didn't go to the engagement party... you would rather have the party be about you, instead of about her throwing a fit and embarrassing you. As for the wedding, I would still invite her. She may say no, or if she says yes, then sit her away from the people she argues with. And if she says no, then go back to your list of people you wanted to invite (but didn't have room for) and invite them.

I would NOT ask your sister "So you didn't come to so-and-so, does that mean you aren't coming to the wedding?"... that will guaranteed start an argument and sounds bitchy to me.

Id invite..but you can only extend the olive branch so much..i wouldn't expect the niece to show with out her mother..Dont make either of them a part of your bridal party..

Definitely invite her and her daughter. If she declines, it's on her. We actually did not invite one of DH's brothers to the wedding, but (1) He's a complete and utter drunk, (2) When he found out DH was getting married, he literally said "I can't wait to go so I can ruin it," and (3) DH has seven brothers and sisters, so there were plenty of them represented.

My cousin was married a few years back, she has a rocky relationship with her brother basically because his now wife is basically a hermit, very shy, doesn't participate in family gatherings because she doesn't like the attention, the list goes on. They had a huge fight because of this BUT she still invited him to the wedding because he's her brother. Him and his wife came to the ceremony, but sat in the back row of the church and left right after, didn't attend the reception. She's your sister, no matter what your relationship is, she will always be just that. Invite your sister

One million percent with you@onawho My sister passed away recently and YES I would give up my wedding to have my sister back. Not everyone is close to their families I get that. However, if someone is saying they'd give anything to have their mother/father/ sister/brother here to attend such a momentous occasion it has nothing to do with a warning of regret, WE just really wish our loved ones could be here.Fuck a wedding give me my sister.

@OP I'd say have the talk with her,let her know how you're feeling if she's interested in coming and will keep the peace then invite her if not then don't at least you tried.

Invite her. Then let it be on her if she doesn't come (but don't let it bother you since you don't want her there anyway). Let the ball be in her court so that she doesn't lord over you (the fact that you didn't invite her) every time you see her.

Patricia- How did it turn out? Did you invite her? Did she show up?