Random People Showing Up

I'm going to add several plates to my final count just to make sure there is extra food. But if you're not invited you better not show up. It's rude, it's inconsiderate and it's mind-blowing ridiculous.

I had 1 "random" guest who attended in place of a guest's boyfriend but the "random" knows DH and a number of the other guests so it really didn't bother us. We didn't plan/allot for random people in our guest count. There were 2 people that were expected to attend that didn't attend so we had extra meals already.

It was in state randoms for me.

Sasha im afraid of the same, from fh family who lives in NC and SC and is just a few hours drive away--- also know very little about wedding etiquette

Im wondering the same thing, thinking ill just account for a handful of extra seats just in case.

but whatever "random" shows up will feel real dumb when they cant find their name on that seating chart lol - I would

Angie my FH has made it very clear to me that randoms WILL get their feelings hurt. We've talked about this topic at length to be honest. I think I'll allot a couple of seats and hope for the best! Saying a prayer..lol

I had a friend of DH's show up without an invite. Thankfully it was after dinner and everything. Although he managed to convince one of the guys to drink another bottle of red wine, and he puked all down the wall and steps, his only saving grace was he did it outside.

I'm afraid of co-workers. I was at a co-workers wedding in June (I was invited) and someone else from the office showed up that wasn't invited.

Lydia, luckily I work remotely but my coworkers don't know exactly where I am getting married. We are a virtual team...I think the chance of them showing up is very minimal. I would have invited them if I could though.

For us, our invited guest invited them. Our wedding was local for us, but my husband is from a city about 3 hours away and quite a few came from there. This guest had a friend up where we live and told him to come to the wedding. My husband knew this person (I didn't). I saw them from afar but that was it. It didn't matter to me. They showed up after dinner time so there wasn't any seating awkwardness and we had 2 no shows so it evened out.

We had out of state randoms show up since they were passing through to visit their kid's that live an hour south of us. They came to the church for the ceremony and head on their way after it was over.

Di...that's not too bad. At least they had the decency to leave after ceremony. For the life of me I don't understand how people are so inconsiderate and rude. I would NEVER just show up to someone's wedding without an invitation. Although when my FH GM got married last year (destination wedding - evite sent) I had to ask if I was invited to the wedding. Even he didn't know until he asked.

We will have extra food, but its not for randoms! Solely for the people that were invited and rsvp's "yes"

No randoms!

MOH and BM had this happen to them, but the crashers gave them a card with a few hundred in it. We thought that they showed up to the wrong reception by mistake (their venue had 4 ballrooms) but they contacted the doc from the venue and she reached out to the other couples and no one had a guest by the names on the card. It was super obvious too because they were wandering around looking for their seats when the couple was announced and they took off pretty quickly once their names were given. So we wondered if maybe they got the day of the wedding mixed up or something.

@JaKLyn - well they can crash my wedding then - a few hundred in a card from strangers? Surprise!

I had one random that was not invited, but since we had 4 no-shows I said nothing about it. If we were a full house I would have told that person to leave.

Don't wanna come across diva-ish cuz I'm far from it. But people in my community tend to think they're invited solely on the basis of being next door neighbors to your second cousins, god mothers best friend. Soooo, security at the door shall hopefully deter any of that crap. I haven't figured out the logistics, but something along the lines of checking in with my junior bridesmaids at a table before dropping off gifts and signing the guest book probably.

I wanted to add extra meals and the venue manager told us not to do it. He said we probably have no shows. So we were warned that some people might not show up, but we were still surprised by it.

We only had one extra person and this was later in the evening which we were fine with.

I wanted to add extra meals and the venue manager told us not to do it. He said we probably have no shows. So we were warned that some people might not show up, but we were still surprised by it.

We only had one extra person and this was later in the evening which we were fine with.

We have a buffet style so the food isn't so much the problem but we are not leaving out extra seats. Although I do like that idea from the other post about writing the place card for "I didn't rsvp but am here anyway" lol.