A friend of mine since childhood picked 2 MOHs, yet I’ve known her the longest. That was ok with me because I’m not overly emotional. When she called to ask me about being a bridesmaid, she mentioned that she asked the other 2 because she was their MOH, etc. I didn’t need the long explanation, but ok. So, the bride didn’t inform me that kids were not allowed to the wedding after spending $400 on my bridesmaid dress (ridiculous, btw). My kids are teenagers (like juniors & seniors in high school). Instead, I find out from the MOH that kids aren’t welcomed. Yet, a few of the other bridesmaids kids are actually IN the wedding serving various parts. My daughter who has always referred to the bride as “aunty” was looking forward to going, but imagine her disappointment when finding out she was not invited to attend, yet kids are in the wedding. And the kids in the wedding the bride has hired a babysitter for the night if the reception. I reach out to the bride to ask via text about kids not being allowed & she responds with a firm no. In which I replied that I will be unable to attend and how offended I am due to the length of the relationship and lack of consideration, not to mention how my daughter was hurt by the snub. I was the only bridesmaid in the bridal party whose kids were excluded! Then I get a phone call from the bride explaining that kids were just not included because her new husband didn’t want to have them there (yet his nieces & nephews are also part of the wedding). I told her if the tables were turned, her kids would have definitely been allowed. There’s no asking my husband, etc. he would automatically understand. While we’re discussing it she says, “Omg! Wait! You are part of the wedding party. I’m going to call my fiancé so we can discuss an exception.” I was like WOW! I told her not to worry about it, but that I wish her all the best on her special day,etc. she kept repeating that she insists...blah blah blah. Of course she calls and leaves a message on my voicemail that my daughter can now come. Seriously? I sent her a text later on when I tried calling & was unable to get her advising that we were not attending and that I wish her the best on her special day, but offended at the whole situation. Secondly, the 2 MOH and the bride were going to stay in the bridal suite while the other 4 bridesmaids are left out and our rooms are $250/night. Well, when the 2 MOHs (who really don’t have a lot of &dollar
found out they have to chip in for the bridal suite for 3 nights @ $350 each, they decided not to stay in the suite, but instead now want to come and share rooms with the other bridesmaids so that they do not have to pay full price. Wait, when you had the bridal shower we weren’t even included and now that you have to pay, you want to stay with the rest of us. Problem #3, the bridesmaids aren’t really part of the planning for the shower or the bachelorette party. Because the 2 MOHs don’t have a lot of money,they opted to do DIY projects for the bachelorette party. Huh?! We’re not in our 20s or 30s...FYI. After discussing with the bride because she went on & on about how she really wanted me there. I gave in & said I would come. Now I’m noticing that one of the MOHs isn’t really speaking to me and I e known her for years. When I call or text no response about last minute details. Interesting thing, this MOH ask the brides mom to chip in & help pay for the bridal shower @ the restaurant (I thought this was very tacky) and then tells the rest of the bridesmaids we need to send her 100. No receipts no nothing. I said from day 1, we need to figure out how much everyone can afford to chip in & set a budget and the 2 MOHs didn’t want to. Now here we are. The whole reason I was calling that MOH or trying to reach her is because I was going to see about the code for the shower at the restaurant and pay for it (not really). So I respond to the group text and stated, that is why I’ve been trying to reach you so that I could pay for the bridal shower.” Guess what, the MOH immediately has a respond and wants to talk. Obviously, the bride has said something to her about me and I’m really not comfortable with going! Wedding is in 2 weeks and I’m thinking about just cutting my losses. What should I do?
