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dragonfly726
Master October 2011

Question about being a pregnant bridesmaid

dragonfly726, on January 14, 2012 at 8:11 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 24

Hi ladies! I'm set to be in SILs wedding on Sept 1. DH and I are TTC and depending on how things go, I could be as much as 8 months pregnant by the time the wedding roles around. SIL is fine with this, we discussed it when she asked me to be a part of the wedding. I let her know that DH and I would be TTC and could be pregnant, but that I would love to be a BM if she didn't mind having to pick a dress that would work around that.

Fast forward to now. We've had a really hard time finding a dress that everyone likes that would be maternity appropriate. SIL went to DB today and texted me that she had chosen a dress. While I LOVE the dress (Its actually something I considered for my own wedding at one point), I'm concerned that it won't fit a belly. MIL says that the sales lady at DB said it would work, but it is a lot like some of the AA dresses we looked at that we were told WOULDN'T work. I'm just in such a bind because I don't want everything to revolve around me, (cont)

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Latest activity by dragonfly726, on January 14, 2012 at 10:29 PM
  • Kristen
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    My sister will be 7 months pregnant by the May for my wedding. David's bridal actually has a belly bump that you can try on with your dress to see what size you will need. All of my girls are wearing different dresses, so she just picked a dress that wasn't skin tight and would have enough room for her belly.

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  • dragonfly726
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    (cont) It is HER wedding after all, and she wore what I picked out for mine, and I really want to stand up for her, I don't want to let her down. However, if a dress just won't work as a maternity dress, it just won't work.

    FWIW, if I am pregnant right now (which we can't test for a week or so), I would be 8 months pregnant on her wedding day. If not I could be anywhere along in my pregnancy at that point. DH and I have discussed it and we don't want to just stop trying so that I can fit in a BM dress.

    So, here's the dress that she picked out. I guess I want to know if anyone has been a pregnant BM or had a pregnant BM, do you think this dress would work? If not, do you have any advice for someone in my situation?


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  • dragonfly726
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    Also, DB says they take 18 weeks to come in so SIL wants to order them in March. If I don't get pregnant by then (or don't know it yet), how would I know what size to order?

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  • Carrie
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    DB has maternity specific dresses. Why not wear of those in the same color and fabric as this dress?

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  • dragonfly726
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    @Kristen: Thanks! maybe I'll go to DB and try it on with a "belly" just to see if it would work.

    @ Carrie: We discussed that and she wants us all in the same dress :/ but thank you for the input!

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  • krisalicious
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    Can you order it a size up and have it altered down?

    Or....maybe your friend would let you wear something in the same fabric that's floor length but has an empire waist? I think those are easier for pregnant girls to wear.

    Is she set on having you guys wear the same dress, or would she be open to all of you picking different dresses in the same fabric?

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  • dragonfly726
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    @Kris S: I would be glad to order it a size or two bigger if that would indeed work. When we were at AA last week they told us that anything that cinches in on the waist wouldn't be able to be altered to properly fit a pregnant belly.

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  • Kitty Katy
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    That should be easy to alter! All you need is to order a bigger size and alter the bust down, the rushing at the waist does not look like it would be hard to move up. also if you are preg right now the baby will be low by then so it won't need moving up that far.

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  • krisalicious
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    Eeek. Well, I definitely think an empire waist would be a lot easier to pull off, depending on how pregnant you are. Did you guys try on anything like that?

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  • dragonfly726
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    We tried on 2 at AA, I didn't go today because it was very last minute (they decided late last night) and DH and I had plans. SIL didn't like the 2 empire waist ones we tried on at AA and she didn't like any of the other empire waist ones enough to let me pull them to try on

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  • Chrishawn
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    I'm getting married in May and am kind of in the same situation as you. My Maid of Honor is due April 25 (2 1/2 weeks) before my wedding. Since there's no way to guess what size she will be I decided to change my BM dresses to Chiffon. It's much more forgiving and the dress I chose (which is from AA) only requires the bust to be measured. I really couldn't imagine having anyone else as my MOH so I was willing to change from my original dress choice which was a satin dress to chiffon to make it work. Here is the dress my MOH is wearing.

    http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=b7473058-3809-4793-8cad-eb1a3be87b52&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=0&colorId1=

    Hopefully the link works. If not its Style No. 7138. It also comes in a long version.

    One of my other bridesmaids liked the dress so she is also wearing it. But my other 2 BM weren't crazy about it and thought it made them look prego so I continued looking for (cont'd)

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  • krisalicious
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    Can you take the photo of this dress and show it to a couple of independent seamstresses? I personally do not trust any salesperson who tells me whether or not something can be altered. For one, I think alterations are a magical art form, and for two, I think they're just trying to sell stuff and they don't really know. Smiley smile

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  • Carrie
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    I 2nd what kris s. said, ask a seamstress about it.

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  • Chrishawn
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    Something else that was chiffon and similar to the dress the other 2 BM would be wearing. I found this dress which is more flattering to my other 2 BM small figures. They loved them. Its style No. 7143.

    http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=601d004d-20ea-4e74-9314-8d476d09fbac&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=0&colorId1=

    I would also agree that the current dress doesn't look like something you could wear if you are prego or fiind out you are later down the road. There's just no way to alter it as your belly continues to grow. If your SIL doesn't agree to change dresses to chiffon or something more forgiving I would probably just pass on being a BM. It's not going to be enjoyable for you if you aren't comfortable.

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  • dragonfly726
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    @Chrishawn P. That dress is SO cute! I would love to wear something like that. One of the other BMs has a skin condition on her legs though so we can't go short. I really LOVED this one from AA, but SIL didn't like it, so it got thrown out. Darn! lol

    http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=54933601-1453-4ae6-a212-a5a2aa863b49&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=0&colorId1=

    @Kris S. That is exactly what I was thinking. Not necessarily like the saleslady was lying about it being able to work, just that if she doesn't do alterations, how could she KNOW it would work. I was thinking about stopping in to DB and maybe talking to an alterations person there about whether it could be altered (although that probably isn't where I'd take it to be altered). They seem to really trust the saleslady that I would just need to order it 2 sizes bigger and it would be fine. It just doesn't seem to me like that silhouette will work.

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  • krisalicious
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    Exactly, I don't think they would be outright lying to you or something. But I'm just not sure a salesperson who is not a trained seamstress knows what they're talking about.

    I do wonder if you end up with this dress and you're very pregnant and carrying really high- could someone add a couple side panels in that fabric? Like, maybe you order your normal size or whatever size you anticipate being, and order a matching wrap that can be used for extra fabric? IDK. Just an idea. I'm no seamstress magician. Smiley smile

    I've heard really mixed reviews of DB alterations....kind of unpredictable and on the pricey side. But like any DB I'm sure it depends on your specific store and what staff person you get.

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  • Cristal
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    I also have a bridesmaid that just found out she is prego and isn't for sure how far along she is but we are guessing she will be 7 or 8 months for my July wedding. I decided to go with a chiffon material dress so it would work with her baby bump. This is the style we choose but in fuchsia and black http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=8cef50ae-c622-4e5f-b8db-23b4ec2c98e0&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=1&colorId1=

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  • dragonfly726
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    @Cristal We tried that one when we were at AA last weekend and we were told that because the sash is at the waist it wouldn't work.

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  • Cristal
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    The sash is more under the boob rather than where baby bump would be

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  • dragonfly726
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    I just sent her a message on FB. Do you ladies think this sounds okay?

    Hey, I know you already picked a dress, but I'm still really worried that it won't work on an 8 month pregnant belly (which is what I would be if I'm pregnant now). I'm planning on going to David's Bridal to talk to someone in alterations and make sure it can work (because the sales people typically don't know how alterations are done). If you don't mind, take a look at this Alfred Angelo dress. I think it would look great on everybody, it has the contrasting color, and it has the empire waist right below the bust so it would work for a maternity dress.

    http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=33f34cb2-a85c-459f-86b2-9ecc718c59eb&categoryID=772f03c9-de43-4942-bfa0-da77e21ebd65&pg=0&colorId1

    I promise I'm not trying to be pushy or bossy or take over your wedding. I do really love the one you picked out, I'm just really afraid it won't be able to work. I guess if it won't work, (cont)

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