Question about a newly engaged couple

Of course you invite both of them. Wouldn't you expect your fiance to be included in an invitation you receive?

Yes, both should be invited. Anyone in a serious relationship should have their SO invited.

I have a few relatives and friends that are "casually dating" multiple people that they literally just hook up with once every few weeks. So those aren't getting an invite to my wedding.
But yeah, anyone that is a boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance/spouse/partner etc. should be invited.

Well you’re engaged...how would you feel if someone didn’t invite your FS to a wedding with you?

Yes, they should both be invited. They are a social unit

Yup. That is correct. They both get invited.

They both needed to be invited from start otherwise that’s be really rude and classless, but I’m assuming you’re closer to one half of the couple and sent one STD to one residence for them both. I think it’s fine to send one physical invitation to one address for the couple but you should still write both names on it (the postal service won’t get confused, don’t worry!)

Yes, you need to invite both of them. Also, you *should* have been planning on inviting both of them before they got engaged because they were still in a relationship. How would you feel if your FH was invited to a wedding but you were not allowed to go?

Since they were a couple before the save the date went out they should have been invited together either way. Couples are considered a social unit and should not be split up from one another. They needed to be invited together from the get go - even moreso now that they are engaged

I told my friends don’t bring anyone I don’t know! If I knew they were in a relationship I included their partner but if they aren’t no plus ones

Yes. Invite them both when you send out save the dates.

Sorry- meant invites.

Since they are together you would think that they would bring a plus one. So no you don’t have to send invites to both people in the couple.

When people are in relationships (engaged or not) you usually allow them a +1. The only time you get to be picky with +1 if they are single or maybe if they have only had their boyfriend for a short while (some will argue that time of relationship doesn't matter but if I haven't met them before the wedding I wouldn't invite them)

In your case, your engaged friend that you invited should have a +1.

Yes, of course you need to invite the fiance. I really can't believe this is even a question.

My rule of thumb is engaged or married SO only. but do what you feel is best and how well you know the SO

View Quoted Comment So people who have been with their SO for years but choose not to get married aren’t significant enough for you?

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I have it like that for my uncle. While he isn't married, his girlfriend has been with him for over two decades. and I know her. I am not going to pay $160 for someone I don't know and doesn't know me. While I didn't say they aren't significant, the bill will be.

Yes, definitely invite him. If there's anyone else on your guest list in a relationship, please also extend an invitation to their SOs too. Even when I was still dating FH, I would have been irritated if I'd been invited but not him.

If you don’t want to pay for someone’s SO to eat at your wedding, why bother inviting them also? I can’t even imagine telling a friend that their relationship isn’t worth the cost of dinner at my wedding.