This is really just me venting lol, but is anyone else frustrated by the silly rules of wedding etiquette at times?
- Cash funds - I don't feel the need to do these on Zola because I didn't feel I needed to, but the fact that my family would be offended IF I DID choose to add cash funds, really annoys me. I'm mind baffled that a registry of gifts I want is somehow okay, but saying I want to save for a house, isn't.
- Evites - We decided to get married within 6 weeks of picking our venue (long story but it worked out this way due to military, pandemic + delay after I caught covid). But because "etiquette" says Evites are tacky, my guests have about 2 weeks to tell me whether they're attending my wedding in 1 month. The reality is that taking engagement photos, getting everyones address, ordering the invite draft, ordering the actual invites, waiting for them to get to my house (even with rush delivery) and then finally sending them out took 2 weeks. It's ridiculous that people would be offended by an Evite regardless when it's 2021, but it's even more ridiculous given the unique challenges of our situation. I would much rather have the wedding date ASAP in an Evite with 6 weeks notice, than have a physical invite with 4 weeks notice.
- Wedding favors - Just... why? Lol I've been to at least 20+ weddings and I cannot recall a single wedding favor, I probably threw it in the trash or forgot it. If people want to do it, fine. But it should not be "rude" if I choose not to.
Its just annoying, I feel like everyday I find out something new that I'm "supposed to do". And this isn't a shot to people who don't like cash funds, Evites or do like wedding favors, my point is that these are PREFERENCES and they should be treated as just that, not hard rules