Purchasing bridesmaid dress as thank-you gift.

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"$60 isn't much for a bridesmaid gift?

Just curious, how much are y'all spending? I've been living under a rock. lol."

compared to what they are spending on you?

Muriel, your right. Thanks for that perspective. Nothing wrong with spending more, I wish I could cover their whole trip.

I figured that purpose of the bridesmaid gift is to show appreciation for them celebrating your day. (I never knew it was a thing until I was engaged). If showing appreciation is the main goal, expressing that in page letter should be sufficient. It seems like it became a 'thing to do' with gifts. Like MANY past bridesmaids have stated, these THINGS they receive usually isnt something they truely want or will use again. I was considering writing them a letter expressing how much their friendship has meant to me. I was also going to cover the dress to help ease their financial stress. Their cost for my wedding will be close to the same as other guest. (no bach party). I also plan on taking them to a nice dinner the night they fly in. My main concern always has been with not making the wedding a financial burden on the both of us.

From the responses, I am thinking about this wrong. I am looking in to gifts for each of them.

I'd prefer the gift. $60 is not that much for a dress now if it was $100 and seeing their situation definitely the dress

I'd personally prefer the dress. Having been in multiple weddings and my dress being $150+ for each one I'd much rather have the dress. I should add that I've also never even been given a gift as a BM so I'd take the dress anyday.

I asked one of my BMs this! She said the gift. She's been in weddings both ways before and said the dress just sits in the back of her closet, but the gifts (if they're right) will be used and cherished and appreciated.

I bought their desses, earnings, bracelet, and a personalized thank you card