PSA about marrying before your wedding...

Oh no......

Wow. At least they got married on the same day of the year so he didn't go after the people at Ancestry.

Ha! This happened to my sister! She eloped to Vegas, then did a DW a couple months later in Hawaii. Her MIL found out through ancestry shortly after the wedding. My sis had told NO ONE until MIL asked about it.

Wow, now I totally want to check to see if our friends lied to us about not getting married prior to the wedding (there was a lot of suspicion that they did). Resisting the temptation... nothing good will come from this.

People have entirely too much time on their hands.........

Side note:

I love bbc.

I've never understood why people would keep the actual wedding a secret.

Yikes! I don't see why it's such a big deal, but I understand that others really do. What a way to be outed.

It seems to me that whatever day you celebrate your anniversary is the day everyone else should too. I have friends who signed their marriage certificate three days before the wedding. Does that mean everyone should be pissed? Nah, probably not. But maybe I'm just not sensitive. I mean, really. No one is there for the marriage according to the law, they're there for the symbolism in the rings and I do's and vows. And then, of course, the party.

Well damn lol

I saw that someone lost her husband in the Brussels attacks, and her family didn't know they had married. They learned they had a son-in-law the same day they learned they lost a son-in-law. So confusing and so so tragic.

Lol, ancestry is how i found out my parents 'oh, we got married a year before you were born!' claims were very.. not true. their wedding was very much a shotgun one, thanks to my impending arrival.

They should have gotten married in California where you can get a confidential marriage license.

Just be honest with people and it won't be a big deal.

@Beekadee shame on your sister for eloping to Vegas (rarely, is there a good reason to elope to Vegas except "I just wanted to") and having a DW in HI without telling people! Good for her MIL for asking about it!

Yeah, because it makes so much of a difference to anyone.

Not.

No. One. Has. Ever. Asked. Me. About. This. At. A. Wedding.

Because they came to celebrate, not watch a license be signed. But apparently that is of he utmost importance to people who have time to dig around in other people's pasts. To prove they 'lied' without knowing, usually, why.

I never understand why people don't tell their close loved ones they are married? Like why keep this a secret? Why "pretend" to get married in front of them? Which is literally just lying in their faces. Who gives a flying fart if you get married then have a reception later but for God's sake tell your loved ones! It's special and they deserve to know so they can share in the joy! Don't hide it.

Yeah, I don't get it either @Mikayla. The only thing I can think is that they figure if people know, they'll be less likely to spend the money to come to the ceremony the following year in some destination location.

My parents got married three days before their wedding. It was a secret at the time, though they've always told us kids about it.

It was because my mom wanted a simple, small, intimate wedding, but my grandma (dad's mom) took over and made the wedding day all about her. So my dad and my mom and a few of thee close friends got married at the Wesley (student ministry on campus) on Christmas, three days before their actual wedding. I'm pretty sure they didn't tell anyone else about it for a few years at least.

Sometimes no one else can understand why you'd get married before the wedding and that's all the reason needed to not tell them. My grandma would've thrown a huge fit and tried to make that day all about her as well if they would've allowed it. Instead my parents were able to celebrate their day the way they wanted, and still let me grandma have the day she wanted.

To this day, my parents celebrate their marriage on Christmas, and not on the 28th (the day of the wedding). Because that was their day.

So sometimes you might not understand the reasoning for doing it early, but the couple probably has a pretty good reason and it's not any of your business.

Honestly, I don't even understand the expression, "got married before the wedding." Was the day you got married not a wedding? What was it, then?

We were among those who would have had a clear reason for having a "wedding" ceremony separate from the day we got married. Because our area did not have same-sex marriage at the time, we had to go 8 hours away to get married, and could not have a lot of our friends there. We had an at-home reception when we got back, and all our friends got to celebrate our marriage. (You don't need a "wedding" to celebrate the marriage.) But we didn't have a whole new ceremony. I don't understand why you'd have a ceremony when you were already married.