Pros/cons to pre marital counseling

I can't possibly imagine any cons, unless the counselor is shitty.

Also, you don't go to pre-marital counseling, or any counseling for that matter, just because you may or may not have issues. It's great for personal growth as well - I can attest to that.

I don't think there really are any cons unless you have a person who has a religious agenda that doesn't match yours.

You might start by investigating 'the 36 questions". Google it. You'll find it.

There are no cons. Do you only go to the doctor when you have an infected gunshot wound? Hopefully not. Counseling can be great for building and strengthening foundational skills for a healthy relationship.

Counseling is best done as a preventative maintenance. It can help prevent issues WAY before they ever begin, and is beneficial for any and ALL couples. I wish they'd make premarital counseling with a licensed therapist mandatory to get a marriage license.

Your FH is wrong, and that is an awful way to view therapy. Using therapy as a last ditch effort is like trying to put a bandaid on a severed artery. It's probably not going to work, but hey, you can say you did SOMETHING, even if it wasn't much.

We're about 6 sessions in and it's really been helpful, no complaints. I think it's a good idea to help.open the lines of communication

Thank you all so much! I agree with everyone and also yall brought some different ways to look at it.

I am pro pre-marriage counseling. I can also see how some people have a warped view of it. I have some family members who are mentally unstable so whenever someone close to me mentioned counseling my immediate thoughts were similar to your FH's. I outgrew that mentality as I became a more sure of myself adult. Perhaps your FH needs to be able to outgrow it as well and you could help nudge him along by taking it one step at a time and doing some preliminary research on marriage counseling in your area?

If you future brother in law is the one who suggested it as his gift, then maybe have him talk to your FH about it. They are brothers so if you can't talk him into it maybe his brother can. Most guys don't want to do counseling, but if his brother of all people is suggesting it then it can't be that bad. Talk to your fbil.

Pre-marital counseling is a wonderful gift. People with great relationships can benefit from it. I don't think FH and I have problems but we are benefitting from the tools we are acquiring through counseling. Take advantage and enjoy.

@JessT yes he is going to talk to him. FH isn't like totally against it, just doesn't really see what it can do. I have talked to him a lottle and I think we will end up doing it.