Pros/Cons of having a weekday wedding.

It depends on the type of wedding you're having. I went to a Thursday wedding that was 2 hours out of town and I had to take a half day off Thursday. But the groom was a good and old friend of family plus we all knew the wedding and reception would not disappoint. If your not really having an extravagant wedding, I think it's more of an inconvenience because most guests will have to take time off to make it to the ceremony and may have to leave early because of work the next day so you definitely have to make it worth their while. If that's not the case, just have it on a Sunday.

We had to have a Tuesday wedding. It was immediate family only, but even the spouses of immediate family were unable to attend.

A wedding on Thursday during work hours is going to get only those closest to you. If it's in the evening, it will get some local people, but they will leave early. If you have a choice of a Sunday wedding, I'd go for that.

I agree with IzziJones

Look at your guest list and see if it makes sense. I would have no problem going to a local Thursday night wedding since it's easy for me to take a half day at work and most nights I don't go directly home from work and straight to bed. I probably wouldn't travel for one unless you were one of my closest friends or family. However, I don't think having a wedding on any day of the week is selfish. If I couldn't make it then I would just decline. I certainly wouldn't go and then be resentful (as it seems some people on here do) We also tell people on here to have the wedding they can afford and for some that is a weekday wedding.

I don't think it's selfish at all. I'm all for taking days off of work lol. I know not everyone gets a ton of PTO, but who doesn't like a good day off of work.

Honestly though, I would attend either one if I had enough notice to take the days off during our bid time

I think it depends on the time of year and guests. If you plan on having a wedding during the school year (IE September - may/early june) Chances are you may see a greater risk of decline because people are less willing to take vacation time during those months. IMO if its a summer month (end of june/july/august and labor day weekend people are more likely to not mind taking off on a friday for a thursday night wedding (At least I wouldnt) because people tend to use more vacation time in the summer anyway, and if its a holiday weekend then people will probably be more likely to attend.

We choose a sunday wedding because we wanted an off day on a holiday weekend but almost all of our guests are from OOT so we knew thursday would not work for us because of travel plans. Which is also something to take into consideration.

Thursday is cheaper, just be prepared for people not being able to make it. Sunday before a holiday might not me an everyone has off the next day. I did that and there were people who still had work. But, depending on your group people could still leave early s aturday bc of kids, work, or any other reason. Not everyone has a Monday Friday 95 job. Do what makes you comfortable.

I would much rather prefer a Friday over a Thursday or Sunday. Then guests will most likely be in a party vibe unless that's not what y'all are going for. Friday's should still save you a good bit of money if that's your concern

UO; it presents the issue......if someone isn't willing or desirous of taking a day off to celebrate with you, maybe they shouldn't. Maybe they shouldn't be on the list? If your wedding isn't important enough to warrant personal time, then it's a no with no hard feelings.

Another part of this, at least in my area, is the lack of Saturdays. I am already booking 2019, which means people have their venues already....

My wedding is on a Thursday.

So far we have not received one decline RSVP. Most of our guests we talk to say, "they wouldn't miss it for the world." In my opinion, unless your wedding is on a Saturday, most people are going to find something problematic with each day. On a Friday, people will need to leave work early to get to your wedding on time and properly dressed. On Sunday people will need to prepare for their week. When I picked my venue, the price for a Saturday night was 165++ and for a Thursday 100++.

If someone can't make it because of the day of week, you have to be cool with it regardless. Check with your VIPs and go from there.

@Bianca: wedding date twin!!

Just, honestly, know your guests and your budget. Those'll dictate what day you should have your wedding.

If you're like me and are inviting mostly M-F 9-5ers, then a Saturday is the most desirable day of the week for that group.

If you and your guests are mostly in the service or healthcare industries, then the best day of the week is up for debate and you'll have more flexibility.

But, like Celia said -- if the guests you're inviting really truly want to be there, then they'll find a way to be there with enough notice. You'll always have those people who can't make it for one reason or another, whether it's work, their kids, school, money, etc. But if you chose a day that is convenient for the bulk of your guests, then whatever day of the week that is is irrelevant.

Just do what works best for you and your guests. That is definitely not selfish.

It's really a personal decision. We're invited to a cousin's wedding on a Sunday this year, about 8 hours drive away. The weekend before thanksgiving. There is no possible way I can get the Monday off of a holiday week.

This couple is planning a wedding in a short time frame, and they picked their venue because it was cheap, and available (per her mother). That screams you're being a jerk.

If you're doing it because it works for you and your VIP, then that's fine. But this doesn't work for any out of town family that works. None of the cousins can attend - so we will just all rsvp no.

Ugh. I am not a fan. I'd consider a Friday or Sunday wedding because I could take just 1 day off, but Thursday requires 2 days off at least for most people, but then again that is based on my social group where essentially no one lives in the same state they grew up in or went to college in, so inevitably people will have to travel even it is not a "destination wedding."

Do whatever you want to do!! Everyone is going to have a different opinion. We are having a Friday wedding and saving around $2000. We are having a picnic at our favorite winery the day after so we can spend some more time with our OOT guests and close friends and family.

I agree with others, look at your guest list and check in with you VIP's. My FH was just in a Thursday wedding that was OOT for him. I did not attend because it meant 3 vacation days, which I didn't have. But they planned it for 2 pm and were confused why they had so many no responses.

Send STD so your guests have a heads up and plenty of planning time for work.

Hello there! Destination wedding on a Thursday here We have gotten amazing deals from almost every vendor we've selected, including the venue. 95% of the guests will be OOT. We realize that most of our invited will not be able to attend but we are still expecting at least 75 with current feedback. Our date is significant -- our anniversary. If you're wanting some awesome discounts and prefer a smaller guest list, a Thursday wedding may be in your favor.

Personally, if I was invited to a wedding on a Thursday, unless it was a super close friend or family member, I would not attend being that I'd have to wake up at 5am for work on Friday. My sister had a Sunday night wedding, everyone local left early for work on Monday.

We're doing a Thursday evening. I know it's not for everyone, but it's going to be kind of low key, our guest list is tiny-all close family, and so far they'll all be able to arrange to come. We also have a good mix of people who work M-F (including myself and FH!), retired folks, and people who mainly work weekends. Our first choice would be Friday, but Thursday ended up working out and allowing us more options. Most venues in my area, even if they did have availability left on Fri/Sat/Sun this year, have minimums on those days that are unattainable for us.

I won't be angry or hurt if any of our guests can't or just don't want to take the time off to attend.

@S&J whoop whoop! Finally!! : )