Pros/Cons of a long engagement

14 month engagement here and it went by super fast. The pros are pretty much what everyone else has already said. The con is could of being married sooner and I actually felt more stressed with planning and paying things. I felt like everything was centered around saving for the wedding.

We'll have a 22 month engagement. Engaged Thanksgiving of 2014, getting married in October. We bought a house in April of 2015, and knew we wanted to spread out those major life events.

We booked our date/venue on New Year's Day 2015, and when I started reaching out to other vendors, some were already booked for our date, at 20 months out. So I'm glad we didn't have an earlier date.

It's been good for us to take the time to really decide what we want, shop around, and save money instead of rushing and being stuck with the most expensive options. But like others have said, you reach a point where you just want to be married already!

I do not regret it at all though. It's kept stress at a minimum through the planning process.

We had over two half years and it worked really well. For both planning and saving. I was doing a PhD during this time and didn't graduate until a month before the wedding. I used the wedding as a form of procrastination from college, I had a long train trip every week and would design stationary, research different things etc during these trips. We were able to pay for a lot of things as we went along, while saving aswell. Also instead of taking money out of savings for smaller items likes the bridesmaid dresses or shoes I just paid for them at the time ( in Ireland we pay for the bridal parties clothes). We also had over half of the venue paid off by the wedding. The week of I paid of the photographer and flowrist in full before the day (I knew they wouldn't be letting us down) along with the ceremony and drinks reception musicians. on the day we only had to pay the band and the hair salon. Oh and the remainder of the hotel on check out. Having the time to be organised make the whole week of the wedding very relaxed and calm, everyone of the guests commented on how relaxed the whole day was. Sure the day before, I spent the day with my two bridesmaids having lunch, then we wandered around the clothes shops as I wanted to pick up a few bits for honeymoon. Then we went into the hotel to ad hocly meet some of the guests who arrived the day before the wedding and were checking in. We then Sat In the lobby having coffee with people as they arrived, there was a great buzz around as all the cousins aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters and kids were arriving, we then went home to get changed to return that evening as we had arranged to meet every who was around in the hotel bar for some finger food that night. (about fifty people came down the night before) .it was great..definitely if things had been left until the last minute we wouldnt have enjoyed the whole week, or our guests.

My FH and I considered a 19-month engagement since we both love the fall, but when we found our venue decided it would be better to get married there in the spring. Now that we are under a year I wonder where the months are going!! Don't worry about what anyone else thinks and trust your decision. It will end up being perfect.

We have planned for over 2 years for financial reasons and we are young. Pros we have time to save and pay over time, have time to plan thong. Cons a lot of venders only book a year out.

That's not too long. Ours is 14 months, but for me it is feeling like 2 years. I felt it coming, so I started looking at stuff early. The biggest con is that you do want to be married like yesterday. That, and for me personally, it gives me too much time to look and change my mind over and over again.

FH and I are having a two year engagement (engaged Sept 2014); PROs it gave us time to plan and time to save (most important thing). CON: you end up second guessing a lot of decisions because you have time to over think, and I somewhat feel restless. The planning sort of came in waves where I'd be really focusing on the wedding and then I'd go months where nothing gets done because there's nothing to do but you still feel as though you should be doing things.