Private ceremony/elopement

There isn’t a one size fits all wedding. It sounds like you have planned something that will be special and perfect for you and your future spouse. I’m assuming you made the decision to exclude certain people from that day for a reason, keep that in mind. If they aren’t happy for you celebrating the way that feels right to you, they’re probably unhappy with other things in their personal life. It’s hard not to take people’s opinions to heart, but you’re starting your new family and your parents can or cannot be a part of it. I wish you the best.

Would a least invite parents

Hi Kacey! Do you parents know anything about your plans? Or have they started making any wedding planning assumptions??

I think it would be nice to let them know that you've made plans for this private ceremony. Just be honest! Reiterate that this is what you both want for your wedding, and remain kind but firm on your plans. ❤️

There are some great tips in this article you should check out as well:

How to Tell Your Parents You're Eloping

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I agree with this. There's obviously a reason why you chose not to invite certain people. You aren't under obligation to share any details with them. If his mother made negative comments, I would rethink that relationship and go no contact if that is normal for her to be condescending. You really should only surround yourself with people who love and support you. Negative comments are not love.