Price for a wedding

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Wow how did you do this for 250 guests? I had 125 in rural PA & spent 18K with tons of DIY. I am impressed!

As long as you can afford what you're budgeting for, and if you're paying for it yourself, then NO ONE ELSE has any right to say anything about your budget. If she were paying, then she could have input.

It's your wedding. You're paying for it. Feel free to be nice and thank her for her input, then go right on with your plans and ignore her input. Also, you should probably decline to discuss the finances with her anymore to avoid future conflict.

FWIW, We're going to end up around 18K total since we had to postpone our original wedding plan to next year, and are now adding a much smaller ceremony and a small party for this year near our original date. We were at about 16K for our original wedding alone.

Depends what you can afford. Everyone’s finances are different!



Also regarding your grandma, she may not have a perception of how much inflation has affected the cost of weddings. My parents spent $10k on their wedding in 1994. Our wedding was about the same level of fanciness, only slightly bigger, but cost $17k in 2019

I don't think its too much if you are getting what you want. His grandmother, for her wedding most likely did not have to pay anywhere near any of that in her time and so this seems outlandish. But you all might also be of different tastes and hers may not be the same as yours. So hers might be less than 10k. and that's fine..... but it's not her wedding, nor her money. Take the comment with a grain of salt and dip.

The right budget is really what you and your FH feel comfortable spending and can afford. I would not listen to what anyone else has to say about it. Budgets can fluctuate greatly on your location and what you put your priorities in. Venue, food/drinks, photography, and videography were very important to us and those tend to be high ticket items. We budgeted $20k and ended up spending about $25k (not including our dresses).

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Haha thanks, I will say It was a bit stressful (and now seems like a waste since we had to cancel.. thanks rona ) but I was just very strict on my budget, and i suppose it helped to that I don't care too much about the frills and flowers.

Our venue was $900 for 3 days and the DJ include (it helped to look for non profit or historical buildings, they often don't charge an arm and a leg),

Photography was $900,

Food was $800 (taco bar @ $3 per person) - grandma was going to make the cake

my dress was $200 - I bought a brand spanking new Morilee gown off of Stillwhite.com. (no alterations needed)

Hair and makeup was going to be about $200

Grooms men were going to be in Jeans and a nice button up so that's like nothing lol

The remaining $2,000 were to have gone to beer, wine coolers, cutlery/plates, decorations, and other misc expenses. I made my bouquets and bouts from amazing flowers i found off amazon. Our Venue had tons of decorations we were able to use and i DIYd a few myself

Too be fair we would have cheaped out on a lot of things; but that was OK with us as long as our guests were treated right and we had a good time. Since we had to change our plans we will be having a small ceremony and reception (This Saturday!!!! ). For this 30 person backyard wedding we will be spending about $3,000 - just a difference of how we chose to spend our money here- we are hiring a food truck to come and that's the bulk of the expense haha.

Honestly I think this is something you have to sit down with your FH and determine. If you two are the ones paying for your wedding you should make sure that your wedding budget is comfortable for you and will not put you in a rough spot financially. If you can comfortably afford a $20K wedding budget, then I see no issue with that being your budget. My husband and I sat down before we starting looking at any wedding options and planned our budget. We took both of our incomes into account and looked at our monthly bills. From there, we saw the chunk of money we had left at the end of every month that usually went into our savings account and decided to put half in our savings and the other half into our wedding fund. By doing this, we were able to pay for everything we wanted from our wedding without an issue and never had to dip into our savings - which we said we weren't going to do from the beginning.

Our wedding in California with guest list of 125 is costing us $40k. Just really depends on the venue and the quality of the vendors you are choosing.

That’s the average cost of a wedding but it’s very subjective to each person. $10,000 to me is a lot of money but for a wedding I would consider it budget for myself.

Your budget is what you're comfortable with. If you think you can pull off 20k, then do it. If you think you can pull off 10k, do that. Don't let family intervene unless they are helping you pay for it. It depends on your city and the type of venue as well.

Your budget should be whatever you and your fiance (if you are the only ones paying) can afford and want to pay. I don't think people should go into debt for weddings. I've been to weddings that cost $3,000 and weddings that cost into 6 figures. There is no perfect budget.

We doing ours under 5,000 Intimate and simple

I suppose it depends on how big you want your wedding to be. I’ve known people who spent up to $25k or even $5k and are perfectly happy with the wedding they got. So just sit down and just picture your dream wedding and meet in the middle. You don’t want to underdo it or overdo it. It always feels good to spend less then your budget. Hope this helps (:

Is his grandmother paying for the wedding? If not, you can do what you want . Like the other brides said, it all depends on venue, catering, and guest count. Our budget was about $10K, but we’re looking at about $12K for EVERYTHING including the diy decorations I plan to sell to make a few $$ back. Just try to stay close to your budget (whatever it ends up being). I wouldn’t recommend going into debt for 1 memorable day.

I think it depends on location, and how many guests mostly because food adds up quick! I think it's easier to set a budget based on income , how much family members are contributing and how much things cost in your area. That may make it easier! Our budget was 12K and even my mom thought that was too much but compared to others we know that was cheap. I think parents and grandparents will think things cost more because of how prices were in their time. Don't sweat it too much (:

We are pushing 35K for our 100 person wedding in a midwestern city. It isn't extravagant but we aren't cutting corners either. We are paying for our own wedding and the budget we set is the right budget. I just don't discuss the cost with anyone so no one has had the opportunity to tell me how I am spending too much!

Honestly it depends on where you live & how many people. I live in a wedding heavy area in NY and even having a wedding with 100 people (not including attire or hair, photos/vendors) it would cost minimum $15k-$20k at most places with food. We have opted to just do something at home because it's just too far out of our budget to have our dream wedding and my FH family is very large.

We set a budget of 10,000 as well. I think that with everything included that is pretty reasonable.

My dad wanted to pay for our wedding ( I will be forever thankful) we originally had a 15,000 budget but he’s upped it to 17,000 because we can’t cut anyone else off our guest list. We’re having 125 people. It depends on what’s important to you. My biggest things were the venue, the caterer, and most importantly for me; the photographer. We’ve spend over $10,000 on just those 3 things 😅
If we had a small budget we would have had a different venue and caterer.

We're in Texas and also started out thinking $10k would cut it but with how many guests we invited (250), it wasn't doable. I think we honestly just didn't realize how cost inflated wedding related things are. We're coming in around $25k. This is excluding the honeymoon and rehearsal dinner. If you'd like to see a current budget breakdown, let me know!