Pressure to look a certain way on your big day?

I absolutely feel ya. so i had an eating disorder in college and i worked hard to go thru recovery and am now a mentor to girls in recovery. and when i was engaged i caught myself falling into that fad of bride diets and workouts and i realized you know what of course i want to look good but i need to do it for ME and not for the purpose of one day. so i think changing your mindset of wanting to look and FEEL good for yourself and not only for the wedding, is a big way of helping that mentality out.

also want to add - you are beautiful

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Congrats on your recovery!!! Its so hard to get into the mindset of not comparing yourself to others and just love yourself. I completely agree with everything you said!

also- thank you so much, same to you!

I really relate to this especially right now. I had an eating disorder in the past and wedding planning has made me slip back into old habits and I’ve been extremely hard on myself. I think the wedding planning community can be toxic for me sometimes, seeing brides on here sharing weight loss tips, joking about wedding diets, seeing the beautiful Pinterest wedding pictures makes me feel like I’m supposed to lose weight for my wedding and the pressure I put on myself is so overwhelming sometimes. I’m really trying to be gentle with myself right now, especially with the “quarantine 15” jokes and being surrounded by dieters all the time I have to remind myself that my body has different needs than others and I’m not “better” or “worse” for eating differently. People truly do not critique you as much as you do and no one expects you to look perfect on your wedding day, they’re there to celebrate your love and marriage foremost. It’s very hard because a lot of wedding planning is based on aesthetics but reminding yourself what it’s really about helps me! You’re going to look beautiful on your day and I’m sure your fiancé will think so too!

View Quoted Comment I am so glad you can relate to me! You have actually said it perfectly what I was trying to get at. Social media is definitely toxic and it really does make me compare myself to others when we shouldn’t be doing that! Everyone’s body is different and beautiful! Stay strong you got this! And I know your fiancé will think you look stunning as well! Thank you 🥰🥰🥰