So I'm not sure how to go about this. FH is very good to me. He is always getting me flowers and doing thoughtful things. He is a great listener to my problems and, for the big picture, he does make me happy.
We moved in together last July and I noticed a lot of bad habits of his. He literally does not clean up after himself. I'm always the one cleaning the house, and always the one to take a look at the bathroom or kitchen and be like "hm this needs to be cleaned, let me do it". I constantly have to ask him to just help around the house. He grew up being raised by his mom and grandparents because he was an only child until he was about 16. So he was spoiled and never did anything for himself.
We work at the same place and have the same schedule. Before we even lived together I saved up and bought my own car, which I proudly paid off with no help from anyone. He then decided after his car broke that it didnt make sense for him to get another one, so I ended up driving everywhere. Even on dates or to his family events. Literally every day I am driving to and from work, and he never offers to give me a break, our commute is about 30-45min each way. Once I get home I am always the one making dinner since he never bothered to learn how to cook. It's getting really exhausting. I feel like I have a teenage son rather than a partner.
With the wedding coming up I am so scared. I feel trapped because we have already paid so much money, and my mom has already purchased my dress and my bridesmaids have purchased theirs.
Aside from what I said above he does have so many amazing qualities, but all of these child like tendencies are making it really hard to see the good. Sometimes I feel like I would be better off alone, and I hate to think that.
I am considering joint counseling. I think going would really get him to realize the severity of my feelings. I feel like I'm almost at my breaking point, but dont want to throw it all away. But I'm getting scared because I feel like I'm at the point where I'm numb and dont care. So my question is, how do I go about looking for a premarital counselor?