Pregnant Bridesmaid

Would You Be Willing To Have Her Wear Another Color? My MOH Will Be Wearing Champagne And My Brides Are Wearing Burgundy. I Think That Would Be Your Best Option At This Point.

Usually when any new dress or alterations are needed due to a bride's changing her date, regardless of reason, the bride buys a new dress. You would if course have the right to sell the original on a used or bought but never used site, which would recover some money.
Or if you really wanted this new girl in addition to your current one, because you are now closer than when you originally selected bridesmaids, she could buy the dress from your pregnant bridesmaid. And then your 7.5 month pregnant bridesmaid could get either a maternity evening dress, off the rack, or bridesmaids maternity dress, in a watercolor or print to coordinate with your other dresses, not match.
My very interested 9 yr old daughter says, list her as your Mother-to-be of Honor, MOH.She collects wedding programs, and 2 recent weddings where she was a flower girl or page, that is what the bride did. People will have no problem seeing why she coordinates beautifully but does not match other bridesmaids.

View Quoted Comment The issue with that is she is not my MOH. My maid and matron are both wearing the same dress as the other bridesmaid...so for her to wear a completely different color would be off unless i change around all the other dresses to be mixed matched...ive been hunting for options but nothing yet

View Quoted Comment Tell your daughter thats a cute idea....i would seriously have to figure out budget because i lost some vendors from the virus and have to rehire people so im already in a lost of money....i decided to just wait to figure it out at this point. I might be stressing over a date that may need to be rescheduled again anyways since no one knows when the economy will re open....i just want this virus to be over, its causing so many issues!

Your reasoning to ask your bridesmaid to step down is rude and relationship ending. Bridesmaids are not props for your wedding. You're basically saying a dress is worth more than the friendship.

View Quoted Comment If/ when you do end up looking, aside from Etsy or eBay United States people who will make one or sell one worn once, Jenny Yoo has made print or watercolor maternity bridesmaid gowns for at least 5 years. And they are often on previously owned ( used) wedding dress sites.
And one of The Knot 's subsidiary sites ( like WW) is The Bump. They have lots of ads , and a lot of previously owned gown websites are named in forums or you can post and ask. All pregnancy/ maternity focus, not only to they have ads for wedding salons, but some for evening wear, or dressy maxi and prom in maternity. And if you have ever used the Knot wedding and bridesmaid dress listings, they have a regular maternity category. So you can quickly look, see which dress lines have maternity, and the price range. No point looking beyond your reach. You are already having enough stress. The unknown aspect is the worst. delay a little longer, she won't be pregnant, though may be bigger. You did not say what your gown color or make is, but if you get back to needing one to at least coordinate, or exact match if past seasons had the color in maternity, there are some good deals. Post it here, there are bored people who may look through gown listings for you. Even Macy's has a maternity bridsmaid section. Surprised me, but my SIL bought one on sale online, immediate delivery, $65 on clearance, because a bride moved up a wedding 3 months on short notice, she was 8 months along. The financial hit is tough. But selling her other gown pre-owned would help. Good luck!

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THIS! Casey hit the nail on the head

View Quoted Comment People see a 7.5 month body, they assume she is wearing a coordinate for that, not an issue.

There are many thousands of couples dealing with changes to their plans due to this pandemic, and while it's true that lots of "traditional etiquette" is being ignored for good reasons to enable people to actually get married, there is no legitimate reason to treat a friend the way you are proposing. This pandemic should make us MORE careful of treating people well and maintaining friendships, not less. Friends and relationships are so much more important than the aesthetics of pictures (whether that is the color/style of a dress or worrying about "even sides").

Please, please try to step back and see this from your friend's point of view. The understandable stress you are under is making you myopic.

People's lives do not revolve around you, bride or not! If you asked her to be your bridesmaid that shouldn't have come with contingencies of what size she will be! I hope you are a better friend in real life!!

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If I can order my wedding dress online and do all of my wedding planning and purchases virtually, as thousands of people are having to do, you can find a maternity dress that is a similar color. If it stresses you out too much, give her a picture of the other bridesmaids dresses and have her find a similar one that will fit her. You can sell the dress you already bought online and if it's discontinued you might even be able to sell it above or at cost since there's no site they can buy it directly from.

You would definately lose her as a friend if you did this. And if other people found out they might be appalled. Can you find a dress for her in the same color that will fit her? There are like 10 billion dresses for sale online right now. There has to be something!

View Quoted Comment I am in this position, but instead I’m looking for a dress similar. It’s not ideal, but I would much rather find her a dress that may not be the exact dress but close so that she can still be up there with me. Having her up there with me is way better than making her feel bad because she is living her life and bringing a baby into this world.

No no, you can’t un-ask her lol! Maybe see if a seamstress can add fabric and alter the original dress for her so it will fit. I also know azazie.com has maternity bridesmaids dresses as well. You can order color swatches in the mail, they accept returns, and are very affordable (around $100). Good luck!!!

I'm assuming that this is a good friend of yours. Can you just say you'd still love to have her in your wedding and ask her how she feels about it? She likely is aware that she paid for a dress that won't fit on the new date.

You cannot ask someone to step down, especially because they are pregnant. Have her pick a similar dress - it is that easy. In a time like this, does it really matter how close together all of the dresses look in your pictures? No one will care or notice. Take the time to look and find something - doesn't have to be expensive or extravagant. As a side, my bridesmaid this weekend told me that she had some "big news" and I nearly exploded with tears of joy thinking she was having a baby (she's not pregnant, the news was they finally adopted a dog...but still). I would have never thought that it was an inconvenience for her to be pregnant at my wedding and with all due respect, that is not the mentality you should have. Your wedding is just a night, the same for every other bride out there, and in the same way that the friend has supported you, do your best to make her feel just as comfortable as everyone else.

You’re kicking her out of the wedding just because she’s pregnant and her dress won’t fit? That’s not the only dress in the world, and I’m sure you could find a similar maternity dress. If she dropped out because it’s too much stress, I’d understand. Kicking her out because she’ll have a belly is rude.

Thank you everyone for your input, I didn't want to come off as an evil friend, I guess when I first heard the news I did not know what to initally do. I came here to sort through my thoughts, thanks for giving a different prespective. I guess at the initial moments I didn't think to find a different store to find a dress so i will do my best to find a dress that both me and my friend are comfortable with. I was panicing after finding out the dress was discontinued and could not be reordered. If you have any sites to find dresses please share. As I mentioned before I am going to wait a little longer to find out what will happen in the next few months with the virus and after I talk to my friend before making any attentional purchases.

View Quoted Comment It makes sense to step back and see what is happing in terms of definite dates. But please post the dress, model number or actual picture from David's. Now and again, there is a dress discontinued fast, because no one buys it. But usually a color, or clor and style, are discontinued in a 2 or 3 season cycle. A color now hard to find, from David's or anywhere else, NOW, may have been an industry "latest color" a couple years back. If others on WW find you other dresses in your close or coordinating print color, just who made it, and when, then if you do start searching pre-owned sites, you may look for your dress in maternity. But also have the names of other dresses that would look nice standing side by side with the group. Might as well check a site for 4 possible dresses as one.

View Quoted Comment Glad you’ve had longer to process this 🥰Azazie is the site my bridesmaids are ordering through. You can order color swatches for the material to see it in person $2 a swatch and that includes shipping. Sometimes you can spin the wheel to win a free swatch too!