Jasmine
Just Said Yes February 2020

Pregnant bridesmaid

Jasmine, on August 6, 2019 at 8:54 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 35
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Hi everyone,
i just found out one of my bridesmaids Is two months pregnant. I am getting married in February and she is due I’m march. We had all planned on picking out dresses in September since I don’t want things to be last minute and would like to prevent a bridezilla. I’m a little freaked out because she clearly won’t be the same size and I’m not sure how alterations will be. Has anyone else had a pregnant bridesmaid or has any advice they have for me?

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  • V
    VIP July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I would check with where you plan on getting dresses when is the last possible time she could order her dress. I am guessing you are having all of them wear the same dress so that makes more difficult. If you were okay with her wearing something different than I would do that because she can pick something that would be not as fitted as maybe what the other girls wear.

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  • Futuremrsk
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    Futuremrsk ·
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    If you are okay with her waiting to get her dress, let her get hers later. Also, see if you can find a dress that she will have room to grow in. Something with a more empire waist would probably be good. Also, talk with your bridesmaid to see what she would feel comfortable in! Being 8 months pregnant at the time of your wedding, you definitely want her to be comfy!!
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    On azazie, they have tons of dresses that will be perfect for pregnant bridesmaids! She can always buy a bigger version than normal and get it altered later. Don’t stress. Everything will work out.
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  • Jasmine
    Just Said Yes February 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    Have either of you had a pregnant bridesmaid? I’m only 22 and I don’t really know anyone other than my aunts and mother who’ve gone threw pregnancy.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly Online ·
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    I had one bridesmaid that gave birth a month before my wedding and another that was 4 months pregnant at my wedding. All my girls got their dresses from azazie. They have maternity dresses and only have a 3 week production time so their bodies didn’t change too much between ordering the dress and receiving it.
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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    They make bridesmaid dresses for pregnant women. The majority if regular bridesmaid dresses do not need to be ordered until 3 to 4 months before the wedding. It depends on the maker. Some are usually, 2-4 weeks, others 7-10. Find out the maker, and ask on here when they really come in. . . . There are many things you can easily and safely do early. But doing bridesmaid dresses early very often backfires. Anyone with a weight change can end up paying $200-$250 in alterations. You would do that for a $1000 to $2000 wedding dress. But it is foolish to do it for a dress that cost $150 to $280 to begin with, the most common price range for bridesmaids dresses. They usually come in 2 weeks to 10 weeks after ordering. So if they fit right at 4 months out, there is a lower likelihood that women will have to get extensive alterations from gaining or losing weight. Or pregnancy. It would be best if your ladies not order before the end of September. Then choose a line which has a maternity line. You often won't get the exact same style, but will get the exact match color and type fabric. Something compatible.

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  • Kelsey
    Dedicated September 2019
    Kelsey ·
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    My bridesmaids is going to be 36 weeks pregnant at my wedding. When we tried on dresses and ordered them, she wasn’t showing at all. She found a dress that wasn’t going to be tight on the stomach or anything that had a band that would sit awkwardly on her stomach and ordered several sizes too big. There are definitely pregnant dress options. My wedding is 50 days out and she tried her dress this past weekend and still has tons of room to grow.
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  • Andrea
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    Andrea ·
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    Maybe give her the opportunity to look at maternity bridesmaids dresses, as some pps have suggested. Hope is not lost, girlfriend! All the bestSmiley heart

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  • Rachel
    Dedicated July 2019
    Rachel ·
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    I had a similar situation. One of my bridesmaids found out she was pregnant and due in September, with my wedding being in July. We ordered dresses from azazie and I just made sure there were maternity dresses available in the color I picked. She ended up waiting as long as possible to order a dress (I think she did like 8-10 weeks out) so she would have a better idea of sizing and it worked out perfect. The biggest thing I can recommend is to pick a line that offers maternity dresses and then it may be best to size up from what she thinks will be right just in case. Hopefully this helps!
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  • Melissa
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    Melissa ·
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    My sister was 6 months pregnant at my other sister’s wedding and bought the dress before she knew she was pregnant. She tried it on regularly and waited until a week or 2 before the wedding to have it altered. My other sister is now trying to get pregnant and when we ordered their dresses with David’s Bridal she was told she could do an even exchange for a bigger size. I would see how long she can wait and order a size or 2 bigger than what she currently is and have it altered as late as possible.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    This came up in the pregnancy forum I'm in. They all recommended maybe ordering 2 sizes up and just having to bite the bullet on potential alterations costs.
    You just have to remember that the belly isnt the only thing growing, breasts get larger too so it could be hard to pl pinpoint exactly what the needs will be.
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  • Kayla
    Savvy November 2020
    Kayla ·
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    Can second this!! Azazie is reasonably priced and has so many options including maternity. You can definitely at the very least get the same color as the rest of your bridesmaids there, maybe with a style that’s better for her. Everything is gonna be great Smiley smile
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  • Danielle
    Dedicated October 2020
    Danielle ·
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    I have a bridesmaid who’s getting married in March and then trying for her second child because she’s 35. My wedding is next October 30th 2020 so there’s a chance she’s gonna be a few months pregnant if not more. She isn’t concerned and neither am I. They make dresses for pregnant bridesmaids and it seems to work out in most situations!
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    Judith ·
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    One of my bridesmaids was pregnant, and one had been due 2 weeks after, but had delivered 3 weeks early. So she was in the wedding 8 days post partum, and between the larger breasts and the still large belly, the dress intended for maximum pregnancy, purchased 2 months before the wedding at the same time as the others, still fit. So, 2 of my 4 in maternity design adapted gowns, cut with fuller breasts and wide shoulder strap support, and the baby belly extra room.
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  • Alhina
    Devoted August 2019
    Alhina ·
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    I would tell her to get the dress at least 2 sizes too big and that way she can get it altered to fit her for the wedding.
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  • Chelsea
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Chelsea ·
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    Honestly. I know it sounds crazy and last minute. But go with her about a week before hand and let her pick a dress that fits perfectly. It doesn't have to be crazy amazing but at least she was within the color scheme and something you pick out for her.
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  • T
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    Theresa ·
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    A friend of mine got married when she was 8 months pregnant. As PP Futuremrsk mentioned, she got an empire waisted dress. She is 5' tall, but got a regular length gown several sizes bigger so it could be altered and shortened to fit right before the wedding. Her mom did the alterations, so that allowed her to wait until a few days before the ceremony to have it done. She looked amazing!

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  • Wendy
    Dedicated April 2020
    Wendy ·
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    A dress with an empire waist or maternity dress would be good options.
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  • Rachel
    Devoted November 2019
    Rachel ·
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    My best friend is due the day after Christmas and my wedding is in November. I picked dresses that are very flattering and are stretchy and flowy. If y’all go somewhere they can better fit her versus having to order online
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  • Kaleka
    Devoted September 2019
    Kaleka ·
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    My FSIL is one of my bridesmaids found out she was pregnant on Easter and is due in November, and out wedding is 09/22. While the rest of my bridesmaids where able to get their dresses from David's Bridal, since she is expecting David's Bridal informed us her dress would get back unt 2 days before our wedding. So instead we order her dress in the similar color and style from Azazie.com, and she should have her dress by August 26.
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