Pregnant Bridal Party

@FutureMrs.T: Apprently when haterade became so readily available.

Awesome SunShineJenn.

And I completely agree with everything you said!

My two cents - OP talk to the girls and see what their feelings are about being in the wedding...maybe see if they want to step down (seems like you have some time to find replacements) and be a guest instead.

I didn't read the whole thread, so I have no idea if this has been said:

It sucks that your plans for your day are going to have to be different than you origianlly thought.

I can't help but think about how far along are they in their pregnancies? I know a lot of women wait until they out of the first trimester to say anything. If this is the case than they will have 3 month olds around your wedding ( which given all situations would be most ideal, IMO). If they are only a month or so along than they should all be Mommies at that point and no longer pregnant.

I hope you can sit down with them and talk about the REALITIES that this presents for your wedding.

Uneven wedding parties are not the worst thing to happen. Missing friends and the ability to hang and party with them is not the worst thing that can happen to your wedding.

I think you are totally justified in feeling disappointed. vent away!

I totally get what you mean about wanting your wedding to be about you. FH's older brother seems to do this to him all the time. When he graduated college they announced they were engaged at his party, right after we got engaged they were pregnant, now were dealing with what to do with their children during our reception and getting crap for not bending over backwards for them. At the end of the day you will be the spotlight at your wedding and hardly anyone will remember the bridesmaids and whether or not they were pregnant.

Oh yes, after reading the thread, I totally agree with SunShineJenn and double SupermanBride's meme!

SunshineJenn, everything about your post is perfectly said.

Thanks Jet! It came from the heart, as did Jenn's I'm sure.

Indeed.

I know I would be ecstatic for my friends but worried and a little disappointed. It is one of those unsaid semi-selfish thoughts that creeps up into your brain when planning a wedding. We all have visions and when something changes that vision in can rattle you, unnerve you and call up all the anxiety wedding planning creates. If people are in your bridal party they are most likely very important to you and anything - even the joy of having a baby - that would prevent them from being there with me would be a bit upsetting.

Don't concentrate and fret too much about dress choices and uneven numbers. There is always a fabulous fix for those situations. Just keep communicating with your girls to see how they are feeling and what the next steps will be for them to be part of your amazing day.

Are they all first time moms? If so, they may be excited but a little terrified about this next step. Make sure to be friend first and bride second.

If you can't vent here about this kind of thing, where can you vent?? I can definitely see feeling disappointed and frustrated if I were in that situation. I know at the end of the day you'll still be married, but you want your friends there with you, focusing on your day.

That said, my friend got married this summer and her MOH was 9 months pregnant. She got ready with them, stood through the ceremony, and part of the way through picture started having contractions. She held out through the pictures and the intro to the reception, then gave birth later that night. She's one hell of a trooper. But it's a really fun story for them, and I know they bonded over it.

I'm feeling the need to apologize here. After rereading Emily's statement, reading other comments and being thoroughly yelled out on Facebook, I do think Emily was being harsh. My point was never to make OP feel shitty and it seems that that is how it came across. I still believe that the original post was a little mean. I am sorry, and not just because people called me out. If anyone felt attacked by my statements, please know that it was not my intention.

SUNSHINEJENN for WWPRESIDENT!

I just lost it!

I guess vents aren't open to differing opinions. So OP I'll agree with you. yes you have no right to be upset..3 new lives trump dresses, partying, and even bridal party numbers.

^^ how is that agreeing with OP?

Ab, vents are completely open to differing opinions. Calling someone a brat for venting when they already feel like a jerk for these particular emotions is neither constructive or a "differing opinion", it is combative.

Kristin knows she shouldn't feel the way she does, but the funny thing about emotions is sometimes you can't justify or explain them. And that's what this vent was for.

^^WELL said

have to change my comment b/c it went on a new page

WELL said SunshineJenn

@SunshineJenn. I agree name calling is unacceptable..maybe it was flagged after I posted?:shrug:

@Kayla..I'm agreeing with OP since she stated:"I understand I have no right to be upset." :-)

I totally see why you would be upset - it's YOUR day and you feel like the spotlight is going to be dimmed because you have others close to you that will be sharing that spotlight for different reasons (having babies)....

The best thing to do is love and support them just like they are loving and supporting you - they are willing to stand by your side, baby fat and all, to show how much they love you. Try to find the blessings in that and embrace a more "colorful" wedding. You will still far outshine all other ladies on YOUR day - no matter what.

Don't feel bad about having these emotions...work through them and come to find the happiness and love of your BMs...