Pregnant Bridal Party

She posted a completely sarcastic response. I get being honest, but isn't everyone always talking about how we should all still be nice?!? There are far nicer ways to get her point across. Telling someone they are acting like a brat isn't nice either.

Surely there's a happy medium between being mean and sugar coating things. In my opinion what OP said was really mean towards people she cares about. I'm not sure there's a sunshine and roses way to say that.

I agree, OP said that she is happy for them. *NEWSFLASH* everyone is a little vain during wedding planning, sometimes typing out how you feel makes you see things in perspective.

"In my opinion what OP said was really mean towards people she cares about."

^Eleanor, that's all you needed to say.

I think I see a pot and a kettle somewhere

I don't think the spotlight will be taken from you at all. They're pregnant, not parading around on a sparkling float. If you're concerned about them dropping a baby at the altar, then talk to them about it and see what solutions you guys find.

@Supermanbride: I didn't call OP a brat. I defended Emily. I would not have chosen to use that word but I don't think Emily was wrong.

I'm not sure you are being fair to your girls. It's your big day but it's a momentous time in their lives as well and they are still trying to be there for you.

My sister is hoping to have a nice baby bump at my wedding, and I think it'll be adorable.

I have a hard time believing that anyone who thinks that Kristen is being a brat would be happy-go-lucky to be in her situation. But hey, what do I know?

Three pregnant bridesmaids, or bridesmaids with three (or more) newborns could be very problematic to Kristen's wedding plans. They could be on bed rest. They may feel obligated to stay home. They may feel the need to bring their newborns.

Kristen says she is happy for them, as she should be, but she also has a right to think of her wedding. She's only going to do it once.

Kristen, I think that you should talk with your bridesmaids and give them the option to opt out if they want to.

Every time Emily posts, she says something that makes me cringe. For someone who preaches etiquette like it's a tenet of the damn Bible, she sure doesn't know a lot about how to treat or talk to people.

Image courtesy of Laudie who can't post pictures.

Well then ATTN EMILY -

"In my opinion what OP said was really mean towards people she cares about."

^this is all you need to say. I believe name calling is a violation of the VOC?

I would know, I just did time up in WW county and received multiple emails suggesting I read the VOC

I truly feel for you and I understand why you are feeling the way you do. Try not to dwell, because you have 6 girls that aren't pregnant. You have more than I have not pregnant (I have 5 bm). It will work out in the end!

@SupermanBride: "I just did time up in WW county"

BAHAHAHAHA Superman bride!

But in all reality - I think the OP needs to talk to the BM's about their pregnancy and how they think it is going to affect their ability to be part of the OPs wedding party.

I know that after I had my son I was fine to move around and was coping with the remaining baby belly just about 4 to 5 weeks after I had him...So it is possible they will be there, but w/ newborns in tow (if nursing)

OP could you also advise those of us who want to TTC what they have been eating/drinking - so we know what to try...lol

I'm actually going to have to agree with Emily on this one. These women are close enoygh with you to be your bridesmaids...how would they feel if they knew you referred to them as "a bunch of nine month pregnant girls" and that their fetuses were so unwelcome?

Eta: fixed my misquote

URRRRBODY HATIN ON OP!

I'd personally be disappointed if multiple members of my bridal party ended up pregnant during my wedding. I would be extremely happy and excited for them, but my disappointment in how it affects my wedding and my happiness for them can be mutually exclusive. Yes, it's selfish, but OP already implied that and said she was simply venting. My personal reason for being disappointed would be that I couldn't party with them as we are intending.

Pregnancy changes a person, too. That's not a bad thing, it just means things are different and when brides are already going through a lot of changes, this is one more thing to throw in that bucket. It's life, but it doesn't mean you have to like it.

Let's stop jumping all over the OP for expressing a feeling she felt she couldn't express anywhere else (and certainly not to her bridesmaids).

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WWLauren, you can send my warning to *****************@*****.***.

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WHEN DID IT BECOME NOT OKAY TO VENT HERE?!?!?!?!?!?!?