Pregnancy before wedding.

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Thank you very much! I think my brain is more concerned about what our company/guests will think if I was not to partake in the drinking portion. All of these responses have been so, so beneficial and helpful. Definitely will be using protection next time! We would not mind a baby, however, we would like to wait a bit before trying. Thank you again.

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I will keep you all updated! Trying not to stress too much about it right now, but it's hard not too. Only time will tell and appreciate all the responses here. Thanks so much Samantha.

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Very true. Thank you for pointing this out. I am sure a drink or two would not hurt, but I am trying to be as cautious as possible. Although, I know plenty of people that drank and did not find out they were pregnant until 2-3 months in!

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I am one of those people lol I had no idea I was pregnant until the 2nd month so I still drank and my son came out perfect . Obviously I stopped when I found out, but a few drinks won't hurt early in pregnancy. Besides, you're unsure right now its very possible that you won't be!

There is no announcement to make.

1. You probably will not get a positive test, even if you miss a period. You would be three weeks post possible fertilization (and possibly less, as fertilization can happen up to five days after intercourse). Implantation is another 5-15 days after that as it has to travel the uterine tube, and you aren't pregnant until implantation (implantation isn't always successful, and if it isn't, a fertilized egg will simply shed in the menstrual cycle). Even if everything happened as early as possible (immediate fertilization, implantation only a couple of days later) you would only be about two weeks pregnant. Your body won't be producing enough hCG to be detected in your urine, even if you miss your period at this point.

2. A positive urine test doesn't guarantee pregnancy. You have to confirm with an ultrasound. I caution very strongly against announcing to anyone other than your husband that you are pregnant after a positive result on a urine test, because you may find it was a false positive. You don't want to have to deal with anyone else's emotions if an ultrasound comes back empty.

3. Even if you are pregnant, it is your personal business when you announce it. There is no rule that the second you see two lines on a pee test, you must immediately announce pregnancy. There is no rule that the second you see a blip on an ultrasound, you must announce pregnancy. You aren't hiding anything. It is YOUR body. You decide entirely when you tell anyone about what is going on with or inside of it.

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Eniale,

Your response was very insightful. Thank you SO much for this insight and such in depth info. I greatly appreciate it. If I were to be pregnant I would not be announcing it until at least 4-5 months in if possible. We want to make sure we are taking the proper precautions and not getting anyone too excited. My main concern right now is if I were to drink on my wedding day. From the other responses it sounds like it make just be too early to even tell on my wedding day. Feels like a catch 22! I truly appreciate your response.

Absolutely nothing is going to be showing or visible at all at 4 weeks pregnant (a couple weeks post ovulation). If you are pregnant, you probably don't want to get hammered at your wedding but otherwise it won't impact the fit of your dress or any other aspect of your event at all.

If your period doesn't come, take a pregnancy test between the time of your missed period and the wedding, just to know whether or not to let loose that night. Otherwise nothing changes.

Also, perhaps buy some condoms so you don't have to choose between abstinence and unintended pregnancy next time the urge to be intimate comes along. Even if you are hoping to have a baby, it doesn't hurt to have them in case you want to have sex after a night of partying or some other reason why conceiving a baby in that moment would be less than ideal.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your detailed response! I really appreciate your insight on this situation. We do have condoms on hand but for some reason… we just didn’t get to them. That was our oopsie! Lesson learned for sure 😂

Omg are we twins?! lol I just found out I’m pregnant and we share the same wedding date! We decided to stop using protection this month because we’re so close to the wedding and didn’t think we would get pregnant on the first try. I haven’t even missed my period yet but had a weird feeling I might be pregnant and 3 positive tests later…. Here we are! We’re very excited, but I am nervous about people finding out since I won’t be drinking at the wedding festivities (welcome dinner the night before the wedding and the wedding itself). I decided to tell my best friend the news so she can help me keep it a secret (and bring me mocktails on the wedding day so people hopefully won’t catch on). The dinner the night before isn’t going to be as bad because I have a very form fitting dress so I’ll use the excuse that I don’t want to feel bloated on the big day. That said, I have a feeling my brothers may catch on because they know I wouldn’t care about something so trivial like a little bloat. Ahh it’s going to be hard to keep it quiet. I am so bad at keeping secrets but trying to relax and not overthink it. In the end, if a few people figure it out, not the end of the world. 4 weeks along is still very very early, so I think my family would be respectful in keeping it quiet in case of miscarriage. All that said, I may have a glass of wine at my reception. I have several friends who have enjoyed a glass during their pregnancies. Most people don’t even realize they’re pregnant until their second month, but I’m going to see my dr tomorrow to ask advice.

View Quoted Comment OMG. How wild! We are in the exact same boat. However, I’m not 100% sure if I am pregnant yet. 😂 my missed period will come on Monday, the 23rd! I’ll be thinking of you. I also told my best friend so she can bring me mock tails, too! I’m sure a glass of wine will be fine for you, and myself if I am in the same situation. My brother in laws will also be super curious if I’m not drinking. Well, everyone will. We are doing such a small wedding that it will be super hard to hide. And the bloat is UNREAL…. My dress is sheath so you can see every curve and bloat. Wowwwww that’s wild though! We are in the home stretch for our wedding day. I wish you the best luck!!! I’m sure it’ll all go so perfectly and smoothly. Congrats on your double celebration. People will not find out! Just enjoy your day and take it all in. It’s no one’s business.

View Quoted Comment Mine would have come on the 24th, so crazy I tested this early! Curious to see if you get yours, or whether you will be double celebrating as well! Best of luck prepping this last week. I am exhausted from tidying up the last minute details and just looking forward to spending the day celebrating with my FH and close family/friends!

View Quoted Comment THATS WILD!! Mine is also set to start the 24th… you make me want to test early lol! I will update you.


Thank you, you also. I feel the same. We are doing a really small gathering but just the smallest details can sometimes feel like the biggest obstacles. Enjoy your day!

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Any updates on this? Currently dealing with a similar situation except my wedding is 8 months and 15 days from now I'm most likely worrying for no reason, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one dealing with something like this!

View Quoted Comment Aww! No update yet. I’m supposed to start my period tomorrow. I am going to wait to test until I’ve missed it. I’m wishing the best for you! Things happen. when are you expecting your period?

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Thank you! September 4th. It was late last month and with all this stress right now, I wouldn't doubt if it was late again. I know it's a lot harder to get pregnant than I'm thinking in my head right now, but you just never know!

View Quoted Comment Right! You still have a bit left. Don’t stress too much I overstressed and at this point… I am saying if it happens, it happens! If not, then that’s okay too. Wishing you the best.

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Thank you! I am at peace knowing that if it happens now, it was meant to happen now, even if it is not what we had planned. Wishing you the best as well!

Hi, keep us posted girls ;-) I'm curious to find out :-D

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So looking forward to hearing about this! My doctor called to confirm my pregnancy results with the blood test I took over the weekend. My fiance and I have decided that I will enjoy the champagne toast and drink club soda/grapefruit juice mocktails all night to fool everyone. I usually drink that with vodka, so no one will know the difference! I have been extra emotional this week with the excitement of pregnancy on top of the wedding!!

View Quoted Comment I am SO excited for you! Congratulations Anna! What a great idea. Thank you for sharing the results and your plan. I messaged my BFF / bridesmaid and told her to prepare for mock tails. My period is usually like clock work… but it has yet to start and is due today. I’ll keep you posted! So excited for you and your big day!