Pre-wedding thoughts

I'm feeling pretty calm right now; but I think that's mostly due to us keeping our wedding plans stress-free for now. From engagement to wedding day it will be 14 months, and we took our time finding vendors and making budgets/

View Quoted Comment Me as well. I feel that I want to make sure we’re thinking everything through and picking out what we absolutely love/want at our wedding. I didn’t want to wait last minute and be stressed out I like to do things ahead of time. But I also want this to be a fun experience for the both us. I feel like it’s so easy to get caught up and forget to actually enjoy the planning phase of everything.

I’m feeling pretty nervous/anxious but I’m only 45 days out so it’s coming up quick!!

View Quoted Comment Congratulations to you!!

I'm extremely nervous lol, but he is not! We got engaged and shared the news with family and close friends first, picked our bridal party, venue, vendors, and created our guest list before announcing our engagement on FB/everyone else 4 months later. This helped with the people who commented things like "congrats cant wait for the wedding" or "hope I get an invite", etc. This helped us to not feel pressured to invite them as we already created a firm guest list of people we wanted there! Take your time to enjoy your engagement to each other! Announce it when you feel like it or dont announce if you do not feel like it. FH is very private and if it were up to him we wouldn't have announced it at all hahaha. Happy planning!

I’m nervous and stressed and questioning everything I’ve done. I’m having venue regret and it’s too late to change. We’re 41 days out and already paid for everything. I’m worried about our menu. I’m stressed because I want it to be a good time for everyone but I have no idea what I’m doing because all the weddings I’ve been to are absolutely nothing like mine. 😰
But I’m also excited to be a wife and I can’t wait to exchange vows. No matter what happens, we’ll be married!

I was mostly excited but the week of I grew nervous aha

View Quoted Comment Awwww. Omg it’s going to be beautiful your wedding is YOUR wedding! I feel like it’s so easy for us to say “such and such looks better or etc”. However at the end of the day it’s all about you guys. I know you’re going to be a beautiful bride and him a very handsome groom! Congratulations to you both on your new adventure that you’re about to enter.💕

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the great advice! I just feel like I don’t want to feel pressured to invite anyone when we want it to stay small and intimate. However I also don’t want to offend anyone if we don’t invite them. 😩

View Quoted Comment Aw you’re going to make me cry! Thank you, guess I needed to hear that. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Hahaha that’s most definitely going to be me! I get really bad anxiety when big things are about to happen in my life.

Hi!

We had a long term engagement and it was the best!!! You have plenty of time to plan/book vendors who you want and it gives you time to reflect on your marriage. Sometimes we get so side tracked by the details of the wedding that we forget that we are devoting our lives to that person.

It is totally a okay to be anxious and there will be times that you are ecstatic then nerves through the roof! It is a big commitment but if you practice the steps of clear communication now as well as talking about past expectations within your family dynamics and “hot spots” then you’ll be good! Highly suggest “saving your marriage before it starts” you get work books that you go through with your partner and it is very intimate.

I think do what makes sense for you both, if you guys are avid social media users then it isn’t bad to say engaged but you don’t have to let people know the date unless they ask (you can also lie and say you haven’t set one so you don’t feel pressure to invite that person) so you have more time to decide if you want a private family only wedding or not.

Sorry for the essay! Hope it helps!

View Quoted Comment No it’s fine! I really needed that. I just feel like there’s so much pressure to go with the “norm” but that’s not how we are or how we’ve ever been and I really love that about our relationship. (For instance he didn’t even do the “traditional proposal” we just went and got my ring) I will take your advice on taking time to really spend that quality time together before that big step happens. I want us to really know our long term expectations etc although we’ve already discussed them. I just feel like it’s beneficial to set that time aside for just us to keep that connection going and also firmly state our values (etc).
Thank you so much for that advice Emily!

View Quoted Comment Of course dear! You are going to be such a beautiful bride and it seems like you both have a great foundation with one another. Sometimes the little anxiety “beast” likes to talk and say how “you aren’t good enough” or “he is going to leave” (blah blah blah) and just know that it is trying to tempt you into self sabotage.

Lack of a better term, “ain’t nobody got time for that”

View Quoted Comment You're welcome. Someone will always be offended 🤷🏾‍♀️. I have a few cousin's that I barely talk to that are not invited. If it wasnt for FB we wouldn't know anything about each other's lives now. Probably haven't seen them in 15 years since our parents would get together. I have a few old high school and college friends and even coworkers who are offended. Just keep your budget in mind. Dont go broke trying to please/not offend anyone!

I am very excited we have 15 days well 14 tomorrow as its late... but we waited 6 years to get married we told anyone and everyone whoever we talked to we just did that so ive been planning past year and half for our wedding and its almost here so can't wait ...sometimes i get nervous and think omg am i making a mistake etc but weve been together for almost 7 years so i think its just a bit of nerves lol... but youll be ok everyone gets a touch of the nerves it happens just relax and everything will he ok

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much. You are going to be a beautiful bride too! I really appreciated your kind words and advice.
Lol at the “ain’t nobody got time for that”.

View Quoted Comment Yes I’m in the same situation too! Thank you so much for you advice that really put some ease to our decision making!

View Quoted Comment Wow!! We waited 3 years by the time we get married we’ll have been together 5. I’m starting to realize that nerves are very normal during this time. But I’m just trying to enjoy it and go with the flow of things.

Yes to all of them. Today I was hit like a train realizing that the wedding is 5& 1/2 months away. We are buying stuff things are getting finalized and I am freakin out. Like I am such a control freak and I want to know everything will be perfect. And there is still so much left to do (like I still don’t have a dress ordered. I know what I’m getting I just need to buy it)
We told our close friends and close family first.