Pre-wedding Get Together

Would this be in lieu of a rehearsal/rehearsal dinner? Typically, if you plan an event such as dinner prior to the wedding, it is expected that the bride/groom pay for it as a "thank you for coming" for your closest family/wedding party.

If you decide to move forward, I would just be very clear that everybody would pay their own way so they can budget for it & allow for them to opt out with no hard feelings if they can't afford it.

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Thanks Jessica. There isn't a rehearsal dinner -- we are an older couple and we don't have a bridal party. Maybe this is trying to do too much.

Are you having a rehearsal? If so, this this would act as your rehearsal dinner in which it would be courteous to cover expenses for all. If there is no rehearsal to precede a dinner, then the party would be a “we’re meeting at (restaurant) and would love to see you if you can make it” which gets you out of paying.

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Thanks Michelle! There is no rehearsal dinner since we have no wedding party. And it's just a meet and greet so people can get acquainted for the next day. Thought it would be nice for them but don't want people to feel obligated since they may want to tour the city on their own. Like your wording...which leaves them an out too.

Hi ! When I was invited to such a thing, it was obvious that the couple don't pay for anything. However, I know that if I wanted to do it with my family and friends, they wouldn't ever EVER have the idea that they have to bring a wallet... ;-)