Pre wedding events with guests in another state.

Could you have 2 bridal showers/bachlorette combos?

That way you could have one bridal shower in the afternoon and a bachlorette in the evening in Pennsylvania, and another one in Texas?
That way nobody has to travel twice. And you still get to celebrate with as many people as possible.

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Hmm, I actually really like this idea. Thank you so much! I didn't really think about that but it really could work!

I’m in the same boat as you. my fiancé and I live in NC, all of his friends and family are here and my family and friends including my bridal party are all living in NJ. It definitely makes pre wedding events more difficult, but bridal party or family are the ones that are supposed to plan those things. If my fiancé’s family decides to have a bridal shower for me here with his family it’d just be his people, if my family in NJ wants to throw me one I’d travel there for it because I wouldn’t expect anyone to come here just for a shower. I know my maid of honor is already starting to plan a bachelorette party. Her and my bridesmaids all agreed that they wanted to come here for that, but that was completely up to them and their choice since they’re planning it!

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I agree with Mandi. I would look at having 2.

You don’t throw any of these events. If someone from his family offers to host a bridal shower for you in PA, you have a bridal shower in PA. If someone offers to host one in Texas, you have a shower in Texas. If no one offers to host one, you don’t have one. It’s really up to whoever is throwing the party.

This happens all the time. I'll give you two scenarios.

One of my best friends: her whole dad's side is in CA where she's originally from. Her mom and friends are here. She invited everyone to the bridal shower and her dad's side just sent gifts in the mail to be opened at the shower. The bachelorette went fine. We went to OCMD and all chipped in to have her cousin fly out for it (she was also a bridesmaid).

Another friend of mine: had many of her bridesmaids all throughout the US, even one in Alaska. They were her college sorority sisters. They did not come to the bridal shower (besides the local one maybe 2) and sent gifts but they flew out for the bridal shower.

I think if you and your bridesmaids decide the bachelorette is the priority they will just send a gift for your bridal shower. Same with family, I think it's appropriate to leave it up to them if they can make the flight for the shower or not. I don't think it's fair to just not invite people because of the distance.

View Quoted Comment Thank you ladies for all your help!!
and I know that the bride doesn’t host these usually but my mother is paying for both and planning them with me. That’s why I am more involved.