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Shannon
Savvy December 2016

Pre wedding depression/anxiety

Shannon, on November 7, 2016 at 2:10 PM Posted in Planning 0 23

Y'all I just need some support. Our wedding is December 31 and I am so anxious! I am coming off the weekend of my second bridal shower and my bachelorette party and all of the attention is just not my thing. All I can think about is how I just want normal life with my husband after the wedding. I get really anxious thinking about what I have left to do which makes me not be productive. I can't stand the thought of making more decisions. I don't know what music to dance to or how to write my vows. I am over wedding planning, so overwhelmed! Is it normal to feel this way?

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Latest activity by Ginger, on September 23, 2018 at 4:37 PM
  • Ellsy62
    Master October 2017
    Ellsy62 ·
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    I think it's very normal. Can your FH step in and help you out with making some decisions? I know it's all overwhelming but when it's over its over TRY to take one thing at a time and enjoy it as much as you possibly can. Good luck!

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  • DestinationBride
    Super December 2016
    DestinationBride ·
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    I definitely feel this way! I write every single thing down, and then tackle the easiest thing. Then I tackle the hardest thing. One by one, it all gets done. But I get anxious thinking about everything and once I write it down it doesn't seem like too much.

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  • Tiffany
    Super October 2017
    Tiffany ·
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    One day at a time. Breathe. It's going to be over before you know it, just enjoy the now.

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  • Amanda Blue
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    Tiffany is right, one day at a time and take the time to relax and breathe.

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  • ceelengoestocamp
    Super December 2016
    ceelengoestocamp ·
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    My wedding is two weeks before you and I hear you, I am sooooo over it. You will get over the hump and it will all come together on your big day! Just look at all that you've already accomplished and the rest of it won't seem so bad.

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  • MrsA
    Master October 2015
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    I had about 4 months to go when I became sick and tired of wedding planning. The day before the wedding when I finished decorating the reception room I sat down at one of the tables and cried I was so happy it was done! It's been a year and if someone asked me to do it again, I'd elope!! You'll get through it one project at a time!

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  • Shannon
    Savvy December 2016
    Shannon ·
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    You are all so great. Thank you so much for taking the time to write some encouraging words to a stranger! It helps to know others feel the same way

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  • PerfectlyPolin
    VIP September 2017
    PerfectlyPolin ·
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    Very normal! My wedding is not till next September and every once in a while I freak out over everything I still have to do. I know I will be a mess the month before! Good luck!

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  • Zoe
    Devoted November 2017
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    Talk to your FH about it. There's no getting around the attention of a wedding, but find comfort in him. Tell your dj that you don't really care what music is played as long as people are having fun. Consider hiring a wedding consultant to help you through this final stretch. You don't have to write your vows, you and your FH could go with the classic ones.

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  • TheFutureMrs.Smith
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    I think it's very normal! I feel the same way sometimes and I'm about 7 months out! The great thing is that you're almost to your wedding date!! Have you tried yoga or meditation to help you relax? You got this! I wish you luck!!

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  • Nikol
    VIP December 2017
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    I have over a year to go and I feel the same. I hate attention and am dreading the day all the activities start. I wouldn't change it for the world though, because I want to walk down that isle! Hang in there girl! You're not alone!

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  • Private User
    Super December 2016
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    Date twin! It sounds like a date night with the FH could do you some good ... taking a weekend with no wedding talk helped me to feel better Smiley smile

    I'm almost at the point where I'm so done with decisions ... is there anything you can delegate? At this point thinking about decorations makes my head spin ... but my mom was so happy when I passed that off to her Smiley smile also napkins because wtf ... I don't got time to buy napkins Smiley smile

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  • EarlieCat
    Super December 2016
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    My wedding is 12/22...I'm currently in IDGAF mode.

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  • Melissa
    Super December 2016
    Melissa ·
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    We are date twins!!! You and I are in the same boat. I don't like attention at all. I will probably need to be medicated before I walk down the aisle so I don't pass out. I didn't want to do a lot of things because I don't want people staring at me...

    I'm pretty overwhelmed at this point. FH keeps telling me to relax and take in the moment. 52 days and counting, I can't wait for the end result. I guess my advice is set small goals so it's not so overwhelming. I would tackle the hardest thing first.

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  • Sam
    VIP October 2016
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    Totally normal, lady, just try to relax, remember most brides feel this way before the big day, and if you have a melt down or two that's totally fine.....it's a super stressful thing to plan a wedding but definitely worth it. I went crazy worrying about first dances and vows....I worried about how my dress would look and the weather......but once I saw my husband at the ceremony all the worries went away and EVERYTHING was fine. It's almost like a blur, everything goes so quickly and it's almost like an out of body experience at times but try to relax and remember you're almost there and it will be worth it. Smiley smile

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  • Jennifer
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    When I get stressed like that, I try to get into patterns... Work on it certain times of the day consistently, just a few hours at a time. Take some days off every now ans then. Create a calender and a to-do list. I bet you have a friend who is a music "snob" and would love to make a play list for you! If not, use Pandora and speakers (pay $5 so you don't have commercials cutting into your wedding).

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated September 2017
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    I get super anxious every time I try planning. Especially at work! It's the worst! I've noticed that every time I try to plan lately I get really tired really quickly. So I've been trying to plan in little incriminates!

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  • S
    Super June 2017
    SoontobeMrs. ·
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    I'm the same way, but now a glass of wine or two, maybe three is my best friend lol

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  • Holly
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    Do you have a Pinterest account? There are a lot of really excellent vow suggestions and templates to help give you a direction.

    Your FH can help you with the music, I'm sure. You don't necessarily have to create a playlist if you use a music streaming app (Pandora, Spotify, etc.). There are tons of wedding playlists all over the internet that you can "steal."

    It might not be too late to hire a DJ. If you go that route, you can give them specifics, but all you'll need to do is give the DJ broad suggestions - "I hate country music," "I NEED party music for my guests to dance to."

    *Also, please keep in mind that using the word "depression" when you do not actually suffer from depression is very insulting to those who do. Depression is a real and severe mental illness that does not equate to being stressed out. I think it would be wise to change the title of your post if you do not actually suffer from depression.

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  • MRSGodiva
    Super January 2017
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    I feel the same way and have to take a break from planning or even talking about wedding. I credit WW for the uptick in my wine consumption, lol. Just take a breather and regroup. It will be over before you know it.

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