Pre-Marital Counselling

We are going to also. I think its a great idea.

We are doing counseling once every two weeks. We just started and aren't sure how long we plan on doing it for. Right now I am thinking about 3 or 4 months, because that is 6-8 sessions. FH loves it, me...not so much. I know it is good for us but sometimes I would rather just skip it lol

We did Pre-Cana through our Church, but that was it. The things we did with the Priest have given us a lot of information to talk about, so I certainly found it beneficial.

I am nervous about it because I do not know what to expect. FH is a counselor himself so I want him to put himself in the position to be client and not the professional.

I am thinking of this. Not sure how to find a counselor though.

Stacey, if you are employed check your behavioral health benefits. Most insurance companies cover this a family counselling and not pre-marital.

We have our second Pre-Cana class with the Catholic Deacon (and a friend of ours) who is marrying us. We haven't covered much yet, but I think that it's already been beneficial. He suggested two books for us to read, one that is Catholic-specific, and one by Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages"--AMAZING. I recommend it to everyone now because it's already helped our relationship--and we were already very happy.

We'll end up meeting at least 6 times, but maybe more than that (the wedding is 9 months away).

Karen, My sister in law suggested the Love Languages books as well. I have to work on getting it!

For us, it's required that we take a course in order to get married in the church. It is a full day with other couples and then we have a one-to-one session with the minister that will be marrying us. FH and I are very open about everything already, so I'm not nervous about it or anything

We're doing ours through church-7 sessions. The Love Languages is a great book. I've even got FI reading it

@Future Mrs. C... Your FH reading it speaks volumes. LOL! I think Im going to slide it to my FH as a bday gift!

We are doing it through a counselor and we both love it!! We will keep going until she tells us we can taper off. Its so nice hearing we are normal LOL

We have a great counselor that was recommended through a friend. We did about 5 sessions before the wedding and it was well worth it. AS great as we get along, she still taught us aditinal communication skills that are invaluable!

We've even gone twice since the wedding to discuss having children. FWIW, we're going to go every 6 months for 2 sessions (roughly) for the first 2 or 3 years of marriage. We think it's a good idea just to stay on top of any issues that might come up and to hone our communication skills.

That's very inspiring Sharron!

@Chauncia Thanks! In talking to our counselor, she and her husband still do counseling once or twice a year just to"check under the hood" as it were.

It funny (strange, not ha ha) but she is always able to dig past the superficial and into the heart of the true issue. And that's what you want in a counselor, I think. Someone who doesn't take the surface words but looks past that and pushes!

And I highly recommend a counseling session or two a few months after the wedding. People say things change after "I do" and a counselors office is the perfect place to make sure that everyone is still on the same page.

We will definitely be taking premarital counseling. His church doesn't require it so FH didn't want to at first but I told him that we really need to

Nay-Nay Im glad things are back on track you and FH!!!!

We are doing an 8 hour retreat and meeting the with priest to discuss the 185 questionnaire we filled out. It's great to take time away from planning and really focus on the marriage aspect. After all, that is the most important thing :-)

I definitely agree Santana!

Me and my fiance are taking it and we find it very beneficial to eachother. We have to read a book called love and respect.