Potluck day after picnic...tacky?

What if you got an invitation saying "hello, close friend! I assumed that because you are struggling so hard, you couldnt afford to take a night off to come to my wedding. Fret not! You and all of the others who didnt make the cut are invited to a picnic the next day! Again, I know youre pretty poor from working in food service, so don't even worry about a gift! (Yes, I also assumed you would bring a gift to my non-wedding!) Just purchase the ingredients for and spend time making a side dish. Cant wait to share the day after our special day with you!"

Doesnt that sound ridiculous? Dont do this.

People are really harsh on here . Not really a good site for "support" . In regards to your post it is very tacky . I wouldn't do it .

The culture on weddingwire is extremely homogeneous. If what everyone else says makes sense to you and you agree, then dont do the picnic. If you dont care, then have the picnic.

Painting with broad strokes there Katherine...

Thats what it comes down to though. This community is helpful and its nice to get other opinions but any time you want you can just close the tab or put down your phone and then its not in your life anymore. So, dont stress over the opinions here.

Lolololol wtf is going on today?!

LOL @ Jess: "not a good site for support. BTW your post is very tacky." LMFAO

Thanks for the laugh.

This thread has absolutely all of the elements doesn't it? Tacky, rude, white knights, pot luck, sarcasm. It's fabulous!

I'd say invite the folks to your wedding that you are close enough to invite. And if they're at restaurants, you may get more declines!

That said, I don't think the potluck is a tacky idea on its OWN. Just in some poor taste if its kind of the "runner-up" celebration of your wedding (and the people invited to this are not invited to your wedding - I'd feel bad if a friend invited me only to the day-after-wedding thing). If you're inviting the same guestlist, and just making it clear that you would also have liked to celebrate with them on the main event, I think a secondary potluck celebration (in the style of a day after brunch or wedding weekend) can be fine.

Do this but only if you ask them not to bring a gift or a side. Host them. It will be a wonderful change for them.

No... I can understand not wanting them to have to close down and lose business for a day. My aunt owned her own shop and my grandmother worked there. To do so, meant they'd lose hours, and potential revenue for the day. But, they were closed on Sunday, so when I got married at a young, spry 18 and a half, that's the day I chose to have my wedding.

If you are really and truly worried about them struggling, then ask for NO gift, and *treat* them to a day OFF. Of just eating, mingling- NOT cooking, and enjoying the day.

Just my .02 and advice, fwiw.....