Rachel
Savvy May 2020

Postponing Wedding is Putting Life on Hold

Rachel, on April 4, 2020 at 8:42 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
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Hi Ladies,
Maybe you've seen a few other posts from me in this area! Our wedding was set to be May 4, 2020. I was distraught at deciding whether we should postpone or not, but am really glad we decided to when we did.

We currently do not have a new date yet. I want to try for late October of this year, and my husband wants the same day but next year. We are worried that his family coming from overseas may still be under travel restrictions by the end of the year.
This is one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make in my life. We were almost there.... we are civilly married and ready to start trying for our family to grow. I'm so ready to move on with our lives. Postponing to next year postpones everything, but scheduling this year might mean his family will have a difficult time coming. Nothing is certain as our guidelines for this virus are changing every day. I'm reaching out to vendors and am hopeful that they will remain flexible as we choose a new date.
Any advice, or other brides with the same dilemma? 馃懚馃嵓

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Latest activity by Gina, on April 9, 2020 at 3:41 PM
  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    There's no convenient time to get pregnant and have a baby. If you guys want to have a child, have one.



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  • Natalie
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    My heart aches for you! Not that I am anyone to say but - is it the best time to have a baby now anyways? Through all this uncertainty, I can鈥檛 imagine being pregnant and stressed over the unknown. Focus on what you have the power to change, like the wedding date. It will all fall into place, best of luck! 鉂わ笍
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  • Rachel
    Savvy May 2020
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    So true, thanks for the input!
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  • Rachel
    Savvy May 2020
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    Thanks so much!!
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  • Serena
    Devoted October 2020
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    I might be the odd one here, but I totally understand. We've been waiting to get married to try for our 2nd child. Our daughter just turned 2 and I didn't want a large age gap. Since covid also postponed our May wedding, we weighed our options by keeping our date but pushed to 2021, or get married this fall. After talking to vendors/venue, they felt more confident for this fall. When time comes, we'll decide for sure if we want to try again with how the world is. My sister in law was warned she might have to deliver without my brother in August. Nobody wants that, especially first child. But I totally get how you feel. I went off my daily meds months ago to prepare for this pregnancy, but its okay. But I def want to have another one sooner than later! This is def a decision only you can make!
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  • Rachel
    Savvy May 2020
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    YES thank you so much for posting!!! It makes me feel so much better that someone understands! We are literally the same except for first vs second child haha! I know at the end of the day everything will work out and we have to do what's best for our family, but there is so much uncertainty right now! Good luck with your plans and thanks again!! 鉂わ笍鉂わ笍鉂わ笍
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  • Gina
    WeddingWire Administrator April 2021
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    Hi Rachel,

    I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, and I know the uncertainty of everything is crazy stressful!!

    You are definitely not alone right now! Smiley heart

    If you and your partner want a baby before you tie the knot, I don't see anything wrong with that! How cute would it be if this little babe was your flower girl or ring bearer at your wedding next year. So sweet!

    I'm certain you two will do what is best for your situation but try not to put so much pressure on yourself. While it may seem impossible, enjoy these moments together if you can.

    Also, be sure to check out Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide.

    Sending you so much love!

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