Postponing/ now vow renewal

Aw I’m sorry to hear. Would your fiancé mind having a celebration in October this year without his family? And maybe you guys do something else with just his family later?

Its just your fiances family saying this? I mean to be honest things could be so different in October. Can you keep things as they are and see if they change their minds in two or three months? Especially if you are going to lose so much money with your venue, I dont know exactly how much is on the line but sometimes that can be significant amounts of money. Theres also always the option of having them virtually at the wedding if none of your other guests are saying they will have a problem attending in October

View Quoted Comment It is just my fiance's family, his parents and 2 of his brothers (they are high risk), that have already decided they will not come if we still have it this year. My fiance really doesn't want to do the celebration without his parents and all of his brothers attending. My fiance's dad missed a lot of big moments of his, he doesn't want his wedding to be one of them.

View Quoted Comment Oh yes I totally understand being high risk, but they should make that decision not to come much closer to the date. No one has any idea what the situation will be in October so you could try pointing that out and say youre keeping it as is and will make the decision to change the plans in August or September

I'm really sorry this is happening. First, it may be helpful to just give yourself some time to grieve and be sad. From experience, it's quite hard to move forward with being excited while skipping the acknowledgement that what's happening sucks, it's unfortunate, and it's going to lead to changes.


Once you're feeling less "numb" and more "ok, what now?", figure out if you're ready to start making decisions. Re: blow the budget or stick to it, I can't answer that for you. Maybe figure out guidelines for yourself about how over budget would be unacceptable or a risk to your situation - cut 5% off that number and maybe that's a good starter.
This sucks. No one deserves it, but we're all going through it together.

My dad and sister are high risk and have decided they aren't comfortable traveling 1400 miles for our wedding this October, so we are postponing. Part of me is relieved to have the decision made, rather than waiting until closer to the wedding to decide. I am sad about waiting a year, and we are thinking about traveling to my family to have a super small ceremony this year, but even that has risks.


Give yourself time to grieve before you make any budget decisions. It's difficult and emotional. Once you've had some space to grieve, consider why you had your budget in the 1st place, and what's more important to you and your FH, saving money or having certain elements at your wedding. Also, consider that postponing gives you more time to save money, so you may be able to come out at roughly the same place financially, even though you lost some money.
I'm sorry. It sucks. I know.

Hiii. I'm sorry to hear this. I know family us superr important. Would you consider having a smaller wedding? Say, just your main family and his main family? OR, Maybe if you guys can set up a way for them to still be in the wedding but way apart from everyone else?

Hi there,

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! I personally love the idea of having a small ceremony now and then throwing a larger reception next year. Would you consider live streaming your ceremony for his family to see? Then they can all join you at the reception next year! Just a thought.

I'm excited to hear what you decide.

Sending lots of love your way!