Postponing large ceremony but still getting married- what did you do for your small ceremony?

I am in the exact same boat! This is all so stressful! My FH said he really wants me to be all dressed up like we would be doing originally...but I'm torn. I obviously want to wear my wedding dress but feel weird about wearing it twice...but on the plus side guess I'll get my money's worth!

View Quoted Comment I would wear my dress twice if I am having a small intimate ceremony then a big reception months later. But I wouldn’t wear it twice if Im having 2 ceremonies. Im wearing a different dress to my first official wedding ceremony and our 2nd ceremony in the church will have my big wedding dress. And I say this because both dresses are very opposite.


Hey OP we are planning to have our small ceremony (not sure if FH wants to Exchange written vow for this one) then going out to eat. Think about which parts of the ceremony are the most important to you and which parts you would rather share when all your family and friends are present.
We are having 2 ceremonies and I am planning to save the unity stuff for later.

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Exactly! My FH feels the same, but said he would support me regardless of course. My mom and sister think I for sure should wear my wedding dress both times. I guess on the bright side I would get to wear my dress again whereas most brides only get to wear it once!

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What led to your decision to not wear the dress if you have two ceremonies versus wearing it if you are just having a large reception?

Thank you for the advice! I think we are going to try to do a small backyard wedding with just immediate family and then probably have a big family style dinner. I could still see us doing like a first dance or something like that. Not sure about some of the other stuff.

Are you doing two marriage ceremonies or will your larger one be a vow renewal?

View Quoted Comment Honestly the reason why I wont wear my big wedding dress to the small ceremony is because I dont want us to be robbed of the moment when FH first sees me in my dress walking down the aisle of the church. Not that its not possible for it to be special to see me in the dress a 2nd time but thats a moment we both look forward to.



If we were canceling the church all the way we wouldn’t have the option to walk down the aisle so of course I would wear my original dress because it would be our one and only ceremony. And to get good use of it I would wear it to the reception months later so all family and friends can also see me in the dress.

A small backyard ceremony would be nice, very intimate. Would you have any of the traditional first dances again at the reception later? For me in not too sure if we are going to conduct it as a full wedding or as a vow renewal. I guess it depends on what FH wants to do and if he wants to exchange written vows when we elope or wait until church ceremony. For sure our unity stuff will be at the larger church ceremony (we are doing one indian thing and one mexican unity thing).

Hi Aimee,

This is definitely a crazy stressful and uncertain time for everyone! It seems like a lot of June brides are waiting a few more weeks before making postponement decisions, but everyone's situation is different and it never hurts to be proactive about plan b!

You also aren't alone right now! ❤️

There are a ton of June brides also talking about their Covid-19 concerns in these discussions:

June 2020 brides: freaking out?

June and July Brides do not stress Covid-19!!!

I hope these help!