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Just Said Yes April 2021

Postponing April 2021 Wedding?

Casey, on November 20, 2020 at 1:43 PM Posted in Planning 1 21
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To all my 2020/2021 brides, I FEEL YOU. What a crazy, unprecedented year it's been and - unfortunately - getting back to a relatively new 'normal' still seems months away.

My fiancé and I scheduled our wedding for Saturday, April 17 - our 12 year dating anniversary (to the day!) - and even booked our venue and most of our vendors back in the fall of 2019 after getting engaged July 31st of 2019. We decided to wait on the wedding as to save and prep with as little stress as possible but now, it's not looking like our April wedding is going to happen regardless and we are left waiting even longer.

Sadly, too, after inquiring with our venue (again, that we've had booked and planned since fall 2019) about postponing our date.. they only have Sunday dates in the fall/winter of 2021 available now.

It's a hard reality when all you want to do is be married but have also been patiently awaiting and dreaming of this moment since childhood.

Has anyone else been dealing with this postponement? Are you moving your April 2021 wedding? Is pushing back to 2022 insane?

Fill me in wives-to-be Smiley smile xo!

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Latest activity by Alli, on November 21, 2020 at 11:29 AM
  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    My big wedding is March 27, 2021 but my husband and I decided to have a minimony on October 6th, 2020 (our 4 year anniversary) because we weren't sure if the big wedding could take place and boy am I happy that we did. Our big wedding is still scheduled for March as of right now, but depending on the number of restrictions, obviously that may have to be postponed. I am hoping that we can still have the big wedding as planned, but we will see!

    What are you thinking about doing?

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I'm not moving my April 2021 wedding. Thankfully, the original venue booked were able to refund us completely. We plan to marry somewhere outside and only have 3 guests.
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  • Corrin
    Dedicated October 2021
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    I'm getting married early May, but I figured I'll wait until end of January to decide what to do. With all the news about a seemingly reliable vaccine, yet current surges throughout all states, I figure that I won't cause myself too much stress thinking about it now.

    Soldiering on. until I get some better info in a few months. Trying not to be overly hopeful, but my fingers are crossed things will be okay enough that I can have my 100 person outdoor wedding.

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  • Nicole
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Our original wedding date was 9.19.20 but we pushed out to 9.25.21. We’ve been engaged since July 2017. We figured we’d waited this long so why not wait until it’s more likely we can have the wedding we planned.
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  • Casey
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    That's where we're at at this point, too. There's a part of me that's so ready to move on and just BE married and celebrate that for what it is Smiley smile But, I'd love to be able to look back years from now and remember our day as the celebration we had hoped for. Sending love!

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  • Casey
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Outdoors in May sounds beautiful! Also definitely more 'safe' in terms of what's going on - you're amazing soldiering on! We had originally said 'okay, in February we'll regroup and make a final decision' but now our venue is already almost completely booked for the remainder of the year so we wanted to get a head start on checking in with our vendors to see if there's a common date or time that is more open if we were to push things back. Sending positive vibes your way from Michigan!

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  • Nicole
    Dedicated September 2021
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    I totally get that! With the rollercoaster this year has been we did decide Covid or not, we will get married next year even if we have to have a tiny ceremony and have the reception later. ❤️ Good luck with whatever you decide!!
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  • Casey
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Props to your understanding venue!! At the end of the day, it's you and yours and that's all that matters - xoxo!

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  • Casey
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Yasmine, you are amazing for going forward and doing things your way on your time - that's what I hope to do!

    If I can be candid, will you be walking down the aisle at this big celebration? My biggest hesitation at this point is the fact that we are so excited to get married ON our anniversary - and would like to get elope on that day regardless of the full wedding happening - but I worry that the spark of the wedding and celebration won't be as big if we're already married the day of the postponed event? What do you think? I'm starting to think that we will get married in April and then do a 1 year 'vow renewal' wedding and reception in 2022...? Oof, decisions, decisions...

    Xo!

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  • Corrin
    Dedicated October 2021
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    Thanks!! My venue is already basically booked for the rest of 2021 so I'm kinda screwed if we can't do it in May. I have a hard time mustering the excitement to move the big celebration to 2022. Especially since were going to try to get pregnant right after the wedding in May. LOL This whole thing really screws with the timeline!

    You're smart to think about moving it now! I feel you when it comes to having this grand dream of what you wanted it to look like only to have reality crash down and tell you it's going to be totally different! So frustrating and tiresome. But regardless even if you have to have it on a Sunday, I'm hoping that it'll all be perfect for you!! Love from California Smiley heart

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  • RaylaSan
    Rockstar February 2021
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    For me, my venue cancelled on me and my fiancee and I just decided to look for a new venue to hold our wedding. We didn't want to postpone no matter what, so we decided to do what we thought was best. All we can do now is make our wedding follow COVID guidelines as closely as possible, I'll be providing, masks, gloves, hand sanitizer stations at every table, as well as social distancing pins.

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    Thank you so much ❤️ And yes my dad will be walking me down the aisle for the big wedding, as he did the minimony. But the big wedding is where I will be wearing my big dress, we will have our bridal party, the whole thing.


    For our minimony I wore a simple white dress and we only had a flower girl and ring bearers.
    For our big wedding it will be completely different. Different colors, different food, much more guests, etc so I think that it'll be just as special. I'll do the first dance there, bouquet toss etc so I'm definitely looking forward to it!
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  • Cynthia
    Dedicated May 2021
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    Hi!! Our original date was October 17,2020 but pushed back to May 2021. We've been planning and had all major vendors booked since September 2019. We are going to keep on going. We cut our guest list to 50 from 200, we have a big church so we will block off some seats to keep the social distancing. Our venue has an outdoor space available and may is pretty warm, a little chilly at night though. I also plan to have masks, hand sanitizer and social distancing bracelets. As for dessert and stuff we plan to have pre made mini dessert trays at every table that include cookies, cheesecake bites,cupcakes and brownies. We wanted a big get drunk type of party but now choose to just get married over the type of party. I'm excited that it will be only close friends and family plus it's easy on the wallet.
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  • L
    Beginner April 2021
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    Our date is April 3rd, 21 and we are still moving forward with our plans. Our venue is all outside though, so I'm hoping we won't have to postpone. If things get to point were everything closes down again and we can't do wedding we may still go forth with getting married on our date. FH says we will take all the money we save from not doing big wedding to use on an epic honeymoon lol
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  • Rachel
    Beginner April 2021
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    My wedding is April 2021 and I don’t plan on postponing. So far the venue hasn’t cancelled our ceremony or reception despite being in a pretty closed-down state (WA). Honestly if they did cancel or ask us to postpone I would try to get our deposits back and then just have a small backyard ceremony instead. I think that with all the uncertainty I would rather just get married and go with the flow than worry about the money and waiting longer than needed. Postponing to me just means month more of wondering if we will be able to get married then too.
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  • Nicole
    Super August 2020
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    We postponed our wedding to April 17, 2021 but still got married on our original date- August 1, 2020. Now with covid increasing and IL is back in phase 3, I’m not sure if we’ll need to postpone again. I’m going to email our venue soon, but I just feel like they’re going to tell us it’s too soon to tell. We’re happily married, so if we need to postpone again we wouldn’t mind. We’re mainly having it to celebrate with our friends and family who weren’t at our mini ceremony and I would still love to wear my wedding dress.
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  • A
    Just Said Yes December 2020
    Amberly ·
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    I would keep the date but I think that depends a lot on the location (how strict are / will guidelines be) and what is your close family and friends level of comfort with attending a wedding in April. If you think the government won’t cancel it and they said they’re fine attending, I’d say keep planning but note any deposits / ask all your vendors about what happens if it gets canceled altogether or postponed.
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  • N
    Beginner April 2021
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    April 9,2021 here! We are continuing on and hoping for the best. If anything we will find a venue who will accommodate us and cut our list or we will do a small backyard gathering and (hopefully) do the same place and same vendors on our 1 year anniversary
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  • Private User
    Dedicated July 2021
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    It has definitely been a crazy year. All I can say is that I am getting married on July 17th weather there are 10 people or 210 people there to celebrate with us. If we are still in pandemic times, we might do a follow up reception once things have calmed down, but I want to be married already and it is far too much to try and coordinate everything all over again. I guess it is what it is, but we would like to start a family and buy a home etc.
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  • Kari
    VIP May 2020
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    Our wedding was supposed to be May 2020 with 60-80 guests. We eloped on that day in a very abbreviated ceremony with just 8 guests, and pushed our wedding celebration back to June 2021. Now our venue has given us the heads up that they do not anticipate being able to host the event we planned (or any normal weddings) in 2021.

    If you are not willing to compromise your wedding vision, I think waiting until 2022 is a safe bet. I work at a small college so we're really on top of pandemic management and our nurses are saying we won't have a widely available vaccine until late summer (2021) and that its likely some pandemic precautions are going to need to remain in place until closer to the end of 2021 (because it will take a while for everyone to be vaccinated, and then there is time needed between doses and to actually build antibodies after).

    We are now in the process of deciding whether to postpone to 2022 or just cancel our wedding celebration, and throw in the towel and call it done. It's all been very stressful, what we ended up doing for our elopement was nothing like what we planned or what I wanted, and we've been delaying starting a family because we hoped we'd be able to celebrate first. At this point, we are just running out of time and I don't look forward to or feel hopeful about celebrating milestones in our lives at all.

    Looking back I wish we had just eloped months after we got engaged and never bothered with planning a wedding. All I feel is disappointed.

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