Postponed wedding includes ceremony?

If you want to have a ceremony, you could always do a vow renewal?
In my brain, I can’t figure out any other way to do it. But everyone approaches things differently and that’s the best part of weddings!

View Quoted Comment Hi Alena! We are 10/17/20 and just decided to postpone our wedding to 2021 but proceed with getting married by having a minimony. We contacted our church and they said they can do a “blessing of the marriage” ceremony for the 2021 ceremony which looks similar to a wedding but with a few differences since we are already married. I liked this idea bc I felt like a vow renewal after just a year seemed so early haha however, I know all the rules went out the door with COVID. Hope this helps!

View Quoted Comment Very true

We are doing a ceremony for our actual wedding & that’s where I will be wearing my “big” dress!

View Quoted Comment Hi Lerato! That’s a great plan! I really like that. I want a ceremony on my 2021 wedding but because we will be already married I feel confused how we can achieve that. But I really like the “blessing of marriage” because not all of the guest can attend our really intimate 2020 wedding. Can I ask, will you be wearing your wedding dress to both weddings or you have two different wedding dresses?

View Quoted Comment Oh ok 😃 I was wondering if I should wear my “big” wedding dress to our little ceremony or I should keep it for our 2021 wedding.

View Quoted Comment I’m going to wear something simple for our “legal wedding” in October but definitely saving my dress for our March wedding!

Were having a micro ceremony this October then postponing something larger next October. I will be doing some sort of ceremony for our next event too. Try talking to your officiant if you're booking the same person for both events. I am using the same lady and she is doing a great job of actually having both ceremonies compliment each other. One example is we're sealing our hand written vows in a box in our micro-ceremony then reopening that box for the first time at our larger event to kinda connect the two together! Good luck with planning!

We're having a private ceremony and a small brunch (10-15 guests) in two weeks. I bought a little white dress for it. This ceremony will be civil and then we'll have a religious ceremony when we can finally have a wedding. I'll wear my dress then. I also bought a wrap, since right now we're planning to have the wedding in March and I bought a dress for a July wedding. We're going to do a Zoom of our ceremony in two weeks so that all our guests can participate

This is interesting because FH assumed we would just have a reception and I thought we would have a ceremony too.

We agreed and decided on renewing our vows with everyone in addition to the reception. I’m still going to wear a wedding dress and have my parents walk me, etc. so technically it will look and feel like a ceremony. We’ll do some things differently for our wedding ceremony and vow renewal such as readings of different prayers and Gathas, exchanging mala beads, hand fasting...we’ll still exchange rings but for our vow renewal he doesn’t want to do that...instead he wants to exchange gifts, which I’m not so sure we’ll do during the actual vow renewal. I feel like that can be done more so in private...so either way we still have a lot to decide on. We have a clear picture of what it will be like for the elopement so we’ll get through that first and then plan more so for the vow renewal.

I just postponed last night and was wondering the same thing!! Currently we're viewing it as we're basically splitting our wedding day into two parts. We'll have an elopement on our original date with our parents and original bridal party. Then on our postponed date, we'll just have our reception. Our ceremony isn't religious and I don't know how we would really do everything if we just postponed to...May for example. I'm sure my officiant could help us out.


We're losing money by postponing so we thought we could save some money by foregoing a ceremony the second time around. Especially because I still want to have a bouquet and everything for our ceremony.

I figured at this point there’s really no rules. Do what you want. We have postponed our big December wedding for next December and are still planning on having a ceremony and reception even though we are having a minimony this December. In my mind you deserve the ceremony and reception you have dreamed of whether you are already married or not.

My SIL got married in a micro wedding and will have a full ceremony next year. They will be writing different vows for that ceremony.

We just got married 3 weeks ago, elopement style (13 guests), after postponing our original plan out to next summer. We fully intend on "re-do"ing the ceremony, possibly tweaked as a vow renewal, along with the reception next year. We'll be writing new vows to each other. I'm even considering buying a new dress since I wore my originally planned one for our elopement.

Completely up to you! We will still be having a full on ceremony. We're saving our vows, my dress, my grandpa walking me down the aisle, etc. (basically everything special) for the postponed ceremony. So, it will be completely different experience. We're also not having anyone (other than my MOH as witness) at our minimony, so no one would have seen our little elopement anyway.

We're having our minimony in September and having our bigger ceremony next year along with the ceremony. That's when I'm wearing my fancy dress. Idc if it's not traditional or whatever. Us 2020 brides deserve 2 ceremonies if we want 'em!
Plus, if you're already legally married, you can get even more creative with the 2nd one. The person doesn't have to be ordained, you don't even need an officiant actually. Have fun with it!

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We definitely deserve it!! I'm starting to feel better about all this lol

Definitely agree with everyone that there are no true rules for 2020 brides lol. My fiancé and I will still get married with a minimony on our original date of 10/17/20 with just our immediate family and best friends. Then next October we will have the full ceremony and reception. I’m trying to have them both feel different and special by doing unique things I necessarily wouldn’t do for my bigger wedding next year. Like for the minimony we will have it outside, wear simpler clothes, hold on to our personal vows till the wedding, and maybe wear some fun accessories like a personalized jacket. Your wedding and marriage is honestly what you want to make of it because what ultimately matters is that you and your FH are happy

My original wedding date is 10/10/20. My fiancé and I will be getting married on that day with our parents by our side and then the big party will be next year on 10/2/2021. We will not be doing a ceremony, but may stand up at the cocktail hour and do some fun vows that include our guests.

View Quoted Comment What kind of church do you go to? Would a Catholic Church allow this too?