Posting wedding plannnig highlights on Facebook

I do post more of the wedding planning stuff on Instagram though lol Valerie reminded me lol

I don't post much. We posted when we got engaged, 99 days, and pics of the shower. Our photographer tagged us in our engagement shoot. I don't plan on doing much else other than the day before probably. I did put a few more pics on instagram. I don't know why but I just feel like there is less drama on there.

I personally think its annoying when people post a ton. I know some people post everything or have a countdown every month for a year. We get it you are getting married, we know! But its your choice. Just don't do "People need to book your hotel" or "Only 5 more days to RSVP". That is rude. And no matter what you post expect someone to comment about not being invited or asking for an invite.

FB is EVIL! I've only posted a picture when we got engaged and one engagement picture. I'll keep my posts very limited. My cousin as posted every single detail that goes with planning her wedding. Took a picture of all her engagement party invites and told everyone to let her know when they got them. Of course that didn't go over well but has she stopped no! By posting a lot on FB, your only adding unnecessary drama to your planning IMO.

I created a private Facebook group just to talk about wedding planning details with other brides and engaged couples. All are welcome to join! You can find it by searching for "one true love wedding planning community" on Facebook.

The only thing I posted about the wedding on FB was an occasional countdown statement--

39 days till the wedding!

I posted some engagement party and shower photos after the event, but that's all. I did not discuss anything about my wedding on social media at all.

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It's rude. "I know that most of you aren't invited to my wedding, but I wanted to keep reminding you that there are people on my Facebook who are and they're more important to me than you."

(Sorry, I'm annoyed. I have an old friend who has posted a "don't forget to send those RSVPs and book your hotels!" status as least three times a week for the last three weeks and it's driving me crazy.)

I always advise keeping it to a minimum. When is it ever ok to talk about an event you are hosting to a bunch of people you aren't planning to invite? As @CatsBoninCats said, "I know that most of you aren't invited to my wedding, but I wanted to keep reminding you that there are people on my Facebook who are and they're more important to me than you."

I've posted pretty minimally. I shared when we were engaged, engagement pictures, and that I had a stomachache from cake tasting. I figured all of that was pretty innocuous. I see other people's wedding websites posted and constant countdowns, and even though I was close to them in high school, I am in no way offended by their posts or expect to be invited because of it.

I posted a few photos from our engagement shoot, but I did not specify they were engagement photos. I do not post ANY details on my main FB about our wedding. I have a "secret" FB group called "Monica's Wedding" and I share pics, and info on there with select friends who are invited to the wedding.

I agree VM 100%. If you are only FB friends then why would you expect an invite. I don't mind wedding post on FB except for the RSVP and Hotel block reminders. I think those are tacky. I just think it's all part of social media.

Back to OP I agree with communicating certain wedding post with your SO. My FH ask that I don't tag him in everything. We both work for the same company and I have more co-workers on my FB page and he doesn't want them all to be able to see his. FH is private with his FB and who he friends.

I very rarely post anything about the wedding on social media. Honestly I don't think all that many people even need to know. The only people I'm sharing stuff with are my BM's and mother.

I don't think pictures are the same as posting updates on wedding planning. I think it's annoying when people post about their wedding errands or DIYs-- that also opens you up for unwanted opinions. Its a major faux pas to post a pic of your STD, invitation, or any info about RSVPs, your wedding website, etc. - that info should just be for invited guests. Why not post pictures though? Most people love to see them! As I got closer to the wedding date, I posted some wedding-related #tbt and countdown related statuses.

I've limited it. On Facebook I've only changed my status to "engaged." On Instagram I posted a ring photo, a proposal photo, and a couple of pictures of the two of us saying something marriage related i.e. #engaged #feyonce etc.

I have kept wedding posts to a minimum, mainly because as others have said it rubs it in the face of those who are not invited and they may start asking for invites etc... I did post 1 pic of my ring when we got engaged and changed my relationship status to engaged, I mentioned it at the 1 year mark, and posted a link to engagement our epics (but they were not on FB directly, can't see them in my photos). There will probably be pics posted from my bach party this weekend, nothing has yet surfaced from my bridal shower a couple weeks ago. I will post wedding pics though, and I set most thing like that to be visible only by friends that I actually keep in touch with in real life, not some person from high school that I haven't spoken to in years. I don't want to go crazy with wedding stuff on FB, but if someone has a problem with a few updates over the course of a couple of years and some pics from the day, then they have no business on your friends list anyway.

I agree with some of the others that there is a big difference between posting general updates vs posting things about invites and RSVP's.

I think I put something when we got engaged, I've posted a couple of things about DIY projects, a couple of countdown statuses like 'just realised we get married next month' type thing, but very rarely, and I think I posted something when my dress came in.

I've not had a single person ask about invites. The fact is, if my only interaction with someone is on Facebook (old friends, distant relations etc) then they should know that I'm not going to invite them to my wedding.

My Facebook feed is full of a bazillion photo's of people's babies, and status updates when they so much as coo, and a million selfies - they can deal with seeing my minimal wedding posts.

I have posted a few things. Obviously when we got engaged (but after all my family and close friends had been notified. I found out about my youngest sister's engagement via FB & was pissed), a few statuses about how happy I am to be marrying my FH and one picture of my DIY veil. A close family friend (my god parent's daughter) is getting married a month before me and posts a ton about her wedding. I don't mind and we often converse in comments about our wedding planning. My youngest sister told us we are annoying & need to stop. So yeah I guess people do find it annoying and you are opening yourself up to randoms asking for invites.

I think it depends on the kind of social media person you are. Do you have 800 "friends" on FB. LOL! I don't have 800 friends so I don't need all these people on my FB page or my Instagram. I truly don't accept requests from randoms to keep the drama out of my life. So for me I can post whatever the heck I like on my page. Most likely 80% of the 100 or so people on my FB will be receiveing invites the others won't really care too much. I posted a huge collage of pics when we got engaged and I posted when we booked our venue, my e-pics and when I chose my dress. I alos have a FB private group that is family and BP for updates that are specific to the wedding. I don't post a lot, but I think it's a ridiculous "etiquette" rule.

@Lori, he was upset for a lot of the same reason everyone posted about other people thinking they are invited. I've only posted our engagement and pics, nothing else really, which is soooo hard because I"m soooooo excited! Especially after we received our 1st rsvp!!!! But I don't want to confuse or upset people. thanks for all your responses, makes me appreciate that he was mindful of this.