Posting stuff online

Were you in the pictures? I can understand not wanting the venue tagged but at every wedding I’ve ever attended people post pictures of themselves/favors/food at weddings.

Was this a vendor or a guest? I'm asking because the approval part of your post is throwing me off.

I would be a little annoyed, especially having already asked. If it were a guest talking the obligatory wedding selfie that's fine. But if you start taking pictures of other people, or their kids, without consent then it becomes a problem in my eyes. (We don't even have a picture of our flower girl on our website because she's not my kid; she belongs to someone else).

If you feel like you need to ask again, preface that you will report their photo to FB, IG, etc.

View Quoted Comment MoH (Cousin) so she knows that I’m not on social media.

View Quoted Comment Yes, as the 👰I’m in the pictures. I not on social media and both MoHs know that. So, I don’t understand why they posted pictures without sending them for me to approve first. I also would not post pictures of another person, their child, car, house (this had been done by a minor) either.

Are they just of you alone or picture of the two of you together? I feel like you're overreacting a bit if you're just IN pictures that she took, but she's in them too. If it's just random photos of you at your venue, then yeah that's weird.

View Quoted Comment I’m already prepared to let her know that I will contact FB and have the pictures removed if she doesn’t remove the tag. She has been on FB at least twice today, so she’s had plenty of time to remove the venue tag.

How hard can it be to remove a tag? I changed DH’s (venue) tag so that only ACTUAL friends can see it.

View Quoted Comment The Bridal party is in some of them, myself and DH, etc...

The issue is the venue being tagged so that random strangers have access to pictures of an event that I paid for. Which is NOT okay.

Wow, I love looking at pictures of brides and decorations in the venue we picked. I never thought of it not being ok with the bride before. That's kind of sad

Unfortunately, we live in the day and age of social media and everyone has this urge to share. A fear of Missing out, so to speak. It is highly upsetting. I want an unplugged ceremony JUST for that reason. You did what you can by reaching out. Sadly, we can’t force people to understand us or even take the pictures down. The only thing you can do is make peace with the fact that people won’t always respect our ideals and values and to continue to set the standard of how you wish people to respect you.

View Quoted Comment Yikes. We just shared 5 of 32 engagement photos on FB and sent the link to the rest only to guests. The best man saved and shared the photos publically on his FB. Had to ask him to remove it. We're pretty private. FH doesn't have social media and I only have it mainly for my blog.

I think the sharing of one's own business is one thing. Sharing someone else's business is a strange new phenomenon that came with social media. I think it has to do with the whole keeping up with the Jones' mentality 🤷🏻‍♀️

So are you mad cause she post a picture with you or because she tag the venue

View Quoted Comment Hi Noemi:

Both, but more upset about the venue tag. It shows up on their page, so random strangers can view my event.

So you don’t want to show off your beautiful
event, that you worked so hard (assuming) to plan?
This seems extreme to me that you’re mostly upset about others seeing photos of your event (that you paid for is irrelevant).
But if it’s a big deal to you ask again and then report it. Thats why the report option exists. Good luck

I agree with the people saying it’s not a big deal. I look at those pictures not to live through them, but to get ideas. And it’s not like they can take your ideas for free - if they want to recreate what you have they’ll have to pay just a such as you did. I really don’t see the problem. It’s just inspiration for people and ultimately just pictures that (most likely) only people planning a similar event will see.

View Quoted Comment Brides who care about their privacy, as we did, need to simply ban taking of any pics turns except by the hired photographer, for much if not all of the event. I am sure some people were irritated that we did, but no one stayed home because of it. With older style cameras and film, or video, at family ceremonies including baptisms or christenings, marriages, and funerals, as well as at private parties ( rented venue's) or in people's homes or on their property, hosts often said no pictures, and it was respected. Now people act so entitled to snap pictures any time, any place, and it is highly irritating. One guy, girlfriend a cousin of my husband, actually did get evicted by Inn staff from our wedding during seating, standing and snapping pictures, . havingy exclaimed Bul**hit when people were reminded that this was a private party, and we requested no pics until after dinner. I have no regrets about him being bounced. Why do people act like they have a god given right to take a phone or camera and where they want, and post pictures any time, any place?
It really is offensive to people who feel their most intimate and personal moments can be put anywhere by anyone in seconds .

View Quoted Comment Thank you Judith.

For those of you that it’s NOT a big deal to:

Imagine yourself being 📸/📹 while in the 🛁/🚿 and having that posted online without your permission.

Would that be a big deal to you?

I just don’t want strangers viewing my Wedding. Which is my right since I paid for it, but more importantly since there are pictures of me. You have the right to control the use of YOUR own image.

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Are you talking about having someone post pictures of us naked in a shower?

View Quoted Comment Is that not clear?