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Michelle
Expert August 2015

Post ceremony not-a-send-off wording?

Michelle, on June 28, 2015 at 4:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

We don't have a great place at our reception location to do a send off so we decided to do it immediately following the ceremony. After we are pronounced MR and MRS we will exit stage left and go to a secluded spot where no one can see us and we can have a moment of privacy. During that time we are going to have the bridal party and whoever else guide everyone to the path that leads to the parking lot where all the guests will get ribbon wands to wave as we walk through.

I want to explain this as simply as possible on the program so that people know not to get up and run to their cars but I'm having a hard time saying it succinctly. Any suggestions appreciated!"At the conclusion of the ceremony please follow the bridal party's lead to form a not-a-send-off line for the happy couple!"

Is that weird? I want to leave it vague enough that if we have to go to our rain plan which is in an entirely different location the wording will still work.Edit: b/c you're right it's not a send off!

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Latest activity by Michelle, on November 28, 2018 at 8:09 AM
  • Monica SC
    Master October 2015
    Monica SC ·
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    So let me just make sure I understand. You want to do the send off right after the ceremony, but then you are still having a reception after that?

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  • Michelle
    Expert August 2015
    Michelle ·
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    That is correct... maybe I shouldn't call it a "send off" exactly but it is pretty much the same idea.

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  • Monica SC
    Master October 2015
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    It seems a bit odd to me because these people are going to be seeing you again at the reception. I don't have any good ideas for you, but I definitely would not call it a send off.

    Our ceremony and reception are in the same spot and we are spending the night there so we are not doing a send off.

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  • Colleen
    Super June 2015
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    Is the ceremony and reception at the same location? Edited, that didn't sound right. Was trying to get at maybe if there was an option to do something similar for when they announce you as Mr and Mrs and an entrance celebration instead of a "send off"?

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  • Celia Milton
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    I'd let them get up and run for their cars. It's not a send off if you're not leaving...

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  • Michelle
    Expert August 2015
    Michelle ·
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    Basically I wanted to do it right after we were pronounced and walking back down the aisle together but my father is super concerned that someone will poke someone else's eye out with the ribbon wand stick. So our compromise was to get up and do it with everyone a little more spaced out.

    I understand why i shouldn't call it a send off but I don't see why it's a bad idea? I want to walk through all the happy people and then look at the pretty pictures it makes afterwards!

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  • Michelle
    Expert August 2015
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    @Duales that is not a bad alternative but I'm just not sure we would have the space to do it indoors. I wanted to do it at the ceremony for the sake of space and layout. The path leading from the parking lot around to the gazebo would be a perfect area to stage it.

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  • Michelle
    Expert August 2015
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    Ok, I just had a different idea. We are doing fan programs so maybe I could just put a note on there with something to the effect of if you are happy for the new couple wave you fan in the air as they pass...? And then maybe I could find a way to bling out the programs a little so they look nice when they are waved.

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  • .
    Master October 2013
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    Why not just skip it? "Send offs" or "Not send offs" are not required. You can just go to your spot while everyone else proceeds to the reception location without all the confusion.

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  • Robin
    VIP September 2015
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    No offense but it sounds ridiculous but to each his/her own; your wedding... Do it if you want.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
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    Its the same concept as throwing rice or blowing bubbles, right? Can the bridal party be waiting at the entrance/exit of the ceremony to hand out the wands there? They can hand them out as guests exit the ceremony, and then coordinate the guests lining the path to wave, just as they would if it was rice, bubbles, etc. People are very familiar with that concept so I don't think it will be hard for people to grasp, and you won't need to put anything in the program about it.

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  • Sarah
    Master October 2014
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    We didn't do any kind of a send-off. It wasn't a big deal. Try not to make things more complicated then they need to be. You're just adding more stress for yourself..

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  • Nikki
    Master July 2015
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    I was thinking the exact same thing Annakay.

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  • Snarky
    Master September 2014
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    Can't they just throw rose petals at you as you walk back down the aisle after you're married? Or bubbles?

    The "Fake send off" is weird to me.

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  • Mrs. A & J
    Master December 2014
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    We did this with bubbles. Our DOC coordinated it. It was very simple, no need to explain in a program. Do you have a DOC?

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  • Rachel
    Just Said Yes August 2019
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    That's typically called a receiving line...

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  • Michelle
    Expert August 2015
    Michelle ·
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    Hhmm... this post is three years old but... what was described here was not a receiving line. A receiving line is when you stand in one spot to greet/hug/handshake each guest as they arrive to your event.
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