Poor Etiquette?

That is really stupid. She basically put out an open invite to everyone, everyone's uncle, and the rando creeper who friended you because they liked your photos.

I would never do this, we had a conservative 215 guest list. It could have been SO much more lol. However, I do post random vague things about the wedding at times on social media. I was tagged in some photos from my bridal shower - as well as shared some. I also sometimes give a status update. I.e. bam - we are officially in the 2 digits, or and just like that we are in the single weeks - 9x weeks and counting, and on September 1st I wrote and just like that we can officially say that we are getting married next month. It's not every day, week or month... just sporadic.

I personally wouldn't do it but I don't think it's bad etiquette. I see why, though. Honestly I sent out STDs and immediately got a slew of people I felt "should" be a part of my day declining an invite. It was honestly really hurtful. I can see posting to Facebook so that the people who WANT to be part of the day are.

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Right, I think the only thing I posted about the wedding was when my FH and I first got engaged we changed our relationship status type thing. Then I posted about dress shopping, but I had someone, FH's aunt, ask me on that post when the big day was. I privately messaged her to let her know the day, because she is invited but I didn't think everyone needed to see the wedding date

I don't think it's bad etiquette. Maybe she just wasn't sure who to invite and this was her way of figuring it out. Lots of people post everything on Facebook. Thier day to day lives, kids, food, opinions, wedding stuff, everything. If she has a page with everyone on it, it seems like she thought it would be the best way to figure out who wants to come and who doesn't. I've seen other people post and ask who wants to come to a birthday, wedding, and other events. Maybe thats just me and my friends? 💁 we post anything and everything. It's her wedding and that's how she wanted to do it. I'm sure people have opinions about my wedding and how I'm doing things but it's not their wedding. To each their own

She might have limited the audience of her post.

I find that alittle odd and tacky. I dont post wedding things or updates in social media. Im messaging everyone privately to gather addresses

I would be very curious what she's responding to some of those people, personally I know if I did that the majority of people who would actually respond would be acquaintances or old coworkers I wouldn't have likely invited in the first place.

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Same here. Then it would be like you have to invite that person then.

I wouldn't necessarily say "poor etiquette" but more of how big do you plan on your wedding being? Posting it on facebook can make it more stressful in a sense. if you plan on a 60 person wedding, and 200 people want an STD/invite....could you imagine?! Our is about 85 to 90 people. I can't imagine planning any bigger than that. We don't post anything on facebook unless it a check list and progress. But she does lose that personal touch without doing it individually

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Right. We are having a rather large wedding with about 200 people, but it will probably be closer to 175 once all is said and done. I could see someone doing that if they created a private group or a group message of people you want invited. But still I think people like it when a person reaches out to them individually, to me that means that you really want them at your wedding.

It more so seems like a bigger hassle (which I thought she was trying to avoid). People are people and some use social media in funny ways But ultimately, it’s up to her how she wants to handle her STDs.

Super awkward I have friends on my social media I went to high school with who are just associates not invite qualified I couldnt fathom putting that as a Facebook post. How weird not to mention FB doesnt even show you all your friends pages. But after all its her wedding if she doesnt mind strangers (essentially) relying then OK.

I wouldn't say poor etiquette, but more of bad judgement on her part. What is she going to saying there are people whom shes never met before or just point blank dont want invited asking for a STD? That would be an awkward conversation I imagine. I would just let your friend do her own thing. One way or another she'll realize "short cuts" aren't always so short.

She's setting herself up for a lot of drama. By saying that on FB she's basically inviting every single person on her friends list. She'll learn quick enough that it was a terrible idea.

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Oh yeah. I won't be saying anything to her. I was just curious if anyone else thought that this was a disaster waiting to happen or a bad idea mainly.

Everyone is different. Some people are more organized and interpersonal. Some people are more spontaneous and less structured.

It seems like the comparisons have a little to do with the close timing. But since you don't have to attend, you don't have to worry about it.

To each their own.