Political Statement at Wedding -

Make it normal! The more "normal" LGBT weddings there are, the less of a shocker it will be to everyone after a while. You guys are fighting to be treated just like everyone else, so you should display your "normalcy" at your wedding

I don't think you have to say or do anything at all. This is your day and should only be about the 2 of you!

It's definitely not wrong to just want a wedding! You've worked so hard to get here, you should be able to just enjoy it. I don't think there's any reason to be making any political statements at your wedding. You both deserve to have your day be however you would like it and to be happy, and if that does not include making a political statement, then that's fine!

I have many, many couples who use that statement from MA in their wedding; it is a beautiful reading that is as appropriate for straight couples as it is for gay couples (ideally, some time soon, you'll all just be couples.....).

This is your wedding. It's not a gay wedding; it's your wedding. Do exactly what you want and tell anyone who tells you otherwise to pound sand. You're already making a statement by hanging in there until your particular state gave you (that's a laugh right? Like someone gives you a civil right....) the right to get married.

If your families need to hear the word "god" invoked, if you want to do a prayer or a reading from Dr. Seuss, or do a tequila sharing ceremony or jump the broom/hula hoop/rope...just go ahead and do it!!! Don't let anyone turn your wedding into something you don't want it to be.

And that goes for all of you.

Every one is right. I also want to say i am also a LGBT rights activist and congrats.

Agree with the other ladies! However, I will say- I went to a same sex wedding where there was a small but special prayer said for those who could not understand the union (one of the girls father didn't come). It was a very sweet way to acknowledge the hope of them understanding one day, and also seemed to be a way of thanking those in attendance. I would highly recommend it if you're open to it- as a guest it meant a lot to us to hear!

"It's not a gay wedding; it's your wedding." My thoughts exactly!

You already work for the cause, I feel like you shouldn't feel obligated to put the political part of that fight into your wedding.

I honestly feel that weddings aren't the place for political statements.

Your wedding is about the two of you and what you want. You should celebrate how you want. It seems everyone wants to give their opinion on what someone should do at their wedding!

You shouldn't feel obligated to include the political aspect. Keep your wedding about what matters most on your day... the two of you!

You don't gay park your car or have a gay birthday, why would you have a gay wedding?!

you don't have to say anything, the moment any of the dummies in the room see 2 brides, it will click. If you want to make a nod to the fight, this is a good list: http://offbeatbride.com/2011/05/ways-to-recognize-marriage-equality-at-your-wedding

best of luck, we're all behind you!

I'll be the odd one out here and suggest you incorporate some small reference at least, given that you are an activist, if that's an important part of your life...I'm coming from a similar position and since me, my fh, and all of our bridal party are activists, it just makes sense for us to have a nod here or there. That's what I would do, for what it's worth.

I think you should do whatever makes you comfortable but I agree that labeling it makes it stand out from "normal."

Also, I'm an ally! My cousin and her wife are the first LGBT couple in SC to challenge the state's DOML. I'm also very vocal in my support since it's close to my heart.

I'm also very vocal about equal rights as well and have tried to think of a way to acknowledge equal marriage rights within my own ceremony, even if simply by wearing something. But everything seemed contrived. So if it feels good and natural to you, then go for it! It is YOUR and YOUR WIFE'S day! Just focus on that, and you'll do great. It's your memories that count, not everyone else's. Good luck!!

Nope, I think you deserve and it's "equal" for you to be able to have a wedding and have it be just that and no more or less. You guys should be able to have a wedding that is about the two of you and your love for each other. Everyone is entitled to that.

I think the best political statement that people in general forget about is to vote. All the little touches in weddings, and all the talk people do about equality doesn't mean squat compared to the actual power of voting for those rights(which soo many people don't do).

Weddings are not the place for politics...we have enough of that already...

Its your day...regardless of what people say...whatever you want, go for it...

Just have a wedding. Whatever and however you've envisioned it.

If we could stop defining people by their sexual orientation, or letting our sexual orientation define us at all, that'd be great.

I am planning a straight wedding and would love to make a political statement about all of my friends being afforded the same right... In Pa, the last northeastern state without equal rights. Partially because we both have conservative families, and also to show support for my gay friends.

However I get your desire to not want to make an statement.. I mean hell you are getting married, that's a huge statement right there!