Polite way to add in invites, registering for money for honeymoon/ w small gift registry.

You never mention the registry in your invites...unless you are talking about a shower invite.

Register on honeyfund...you can put that info on a shower invite and the wedding website. Having a registry with a few physical gifts is a good idea too...people should get the hint once they are gone and will probably give money or giftcards.

If you have a small registry people will "get" that there are probably not a lot of material items that you are needing and may opt to gift cash instead. General consensus is to not include any registry info with your invites but that its fine to include on wedding website or spread via word of mouth.

Don't put it in the invitation. You can mention your wedding website on the invitation though and hopefully people will get the idea that you want money. I've seen some people actually request money on the wedding website too. There are mixed reactions on that though but if you want to I say do it! But just don't do it on the invitation

Do not put in anywhere in or near your invitations.

If you are hoping for money, do not register anywhere. But, also, understand that you still many not get money. I never give money as a gift and I know many who feel the same way. So, you may want cash, but you still may not get it.

I second the above advice...create a very limited registry and register for honeyfund or a similar honeymoon fund website. That way, people will get the hint that you want money. Also, let your parents know, because people will ask them what you want. I have been asked by some guests personally.

I *hinted* at the registry in my invites, on an 'additional information' card. It directed people to our website, that includes our registries.

I was thinking of putting.

No gift is better then your company to celebrate with us on our special day(s)

But if you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way, a gift of cash towards our honeymoon would really make our day. However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, we have registers for a few little things.

???? Thoughts?

Our invitations just had the wedding website, which has a registry page. The registry page says:

"We already own many of the housewares that people traditionally register for. If you would like to give a gift, we have two non-traditional options below. You could consider donating to one of our Married Life funds at Present Value. Or, we would be honored if you would support Child's Play -- a charity that buys video games for children's hospitals. We also love surprises!"

Present Value is a great site because there's no fees. We added the charity for people who would be uncomfortable with a cash registry. Personally, I wouldn't use the phrase "a gift of cash" I would just refer people to a website like present value or honeyfund.

Like others said, don't put any registry information on invites. Also if you want money for a honeymoon, just accept the cash/checks you'll get at your wedding. That way you get to keep all of it, and not have any go towards fees for the honeymoon registry!

Honestly, I don't understand why brides who are so sure no one you know will be upset worry about wording so much, why the poem and trying to downplay it? Just a simple "we don't need anything material, but would appreciate money" should be fine if no one will get upset. Just sayin'.

I think the honeymoon registry is good...that way, you don't have to awkwardly state "we want money" and try to make it sound nice. Honestly, everyone knows money is what people prefer, but some people just never give money. I'm one of them. I just like giving physical gifts. A lot. I go to great lengths to get great gifts though!

I honestly don't get the wording of this "No gift is better then your company to celebrate with us on our special day(s)." I really think you need to leave the poem thing out of your invite. People know that it is generally appropriate to give gifts at a wedding, and for the most part, they will ask around or find registry info on your website. If you do a small registry for those who do not give monetary gifts (many of FH's family are like that) then have a honeymoon fund, most people will likely go either of those routes. You can't force people to give you the gifts you want, so putting the poem in the invites will either offend people, or make no difference.

Don't mention gifts, even the gift of your presence thing. Even though gifts are typical it is rude to assume people will bring gifts.