Plus One/so advice needed

View Quoted Comment Your guests will enjoy themselves even more if they have the option of bringing their SO if in a relationship. That’s more love at your event. 💕


We had 15 guests at our DW and it felt like one big dinner party. Only immediate families, my sister’s spouse & a few of our fun friend couples (my hubby’s best friend came alone because he had no nobody he wanted to bring but at least we gave him the choice. Of course as a close friend we wanted him to be happy too).

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your comment and perspective! Oh! I️ see. Did not know of that distinction. The two woman I️ have In mind are not married. But are in long term relationships. I️ think I’ll wind up asking them how they would feel. It really is a number restriction thing and has nothing to do with how I️ feel about their relationship. They are understanding and loving woman and they know each other so maybe they could come together. Still figuring it all out. Thanks again.

View Quoted Comment Right! And it’s not that we dont want them to be happy. It’s just number restrictions that we are working with. It makes me sad that I️ cant Invite all the people I️ want But know everyone can support our union from afar as well.

If they are in established relationships their partners should be invited. Period.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your comment and perspective! Awe that sounds sweet. I wish I️ had The budget to allow more. But the more I️ think It the more stressful I️ get Not giving plus ones. I️ have A lot to think about. I️ definitely Don’t want to offend anyone so maybe not inviting them will be the best option. (Or taking some family off the list. 🤣)

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your comment and perspective! I’m thinking about eliminating some family now to make room for plus ones. Or even just not inviting them. So much to think about.

View Quoted Comment Established as in married or just long term relationships?

View Quoted Comment I would definitely take people off the list before not allowing significant others! We had to not invite quite a few people because prioritizing people bringing significant others and allowing guests was most important. Everyone had to travel to our wedding and we didn’t want anyone to be uncomfortable! Good luck.

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Established as in considering themselves a couple. Some couples were not legally allowed to marry until recently. Some couples never marry for various reasons. It's not about their legal status; it's about their social and emotional commitment to each other and their relationship.

If you aren't sure if they consider themselves a couple, ask them. There is no external sign--ring, no ring, length of relationship, living arrangements, etc.--that is reliable, but surely they know how they see themselves.

Partners are invited by name and together: required. A plus-one is a date, invited as the guest of one of your guests: optional. It's an enormous difference.

If i was close to you and knew you were having a small wedding, i would feel honored enough to be included in that small guest list. I would definitely attend

I’d rather be invited without a plus one than not invited at all. Both FH and I sometimes go to weddings by ourselves even if we’re both invited. Sometimes our schedules don’t align, or I decide I don’t even know the people in that crowd so I’m not interested. It’s just one weekend. Lol, couples can bear to be apart for that long, no biggie.


That said, I would find it rude if my SO wasn’t invited even if he may not come anyway. It depends on if your guests are married or in a serious relationship. Even if I don’t know their SO, I would still invite them. It’s just courtesy.

I would not go to a wedding if my FH was not invited. We were the same way when we were a serious couple (we went to a few separately when we were causally dating or recently an official item). It is rude not to invite a social unit. THIS IS NOT A PLUS ONE.

Plus ones are for single guest and are completely optional.

View Quoted Comment I️ wish Everyone felt that way. lol. Good thing it’s my wedding. I’m going to do what’s best for us PERIOD. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤣