plus ones?!

Cameron- haha thats soo funny.. i dont even know what to say!! im like haa ya were having problems making the guest list because my families so big... i feel SO awkward!

Mrs.countrylace - that is so precious hahahah

Man...I just cannot fathom not allowing a plus one, for singles. Seems...odd. But that is me. Not sure that *I* would want to attend a wedding, solo.

We did anyone in a serious relationship had their SO listed on the save the date. Bridal party members all got dates & a few singles who don't know many people. We cut our guest list at 120 though. Personally I wouldn't go to a wedding without my FH.

One exception was FH's younger cousin is in a relationship but we are waiting to see if they are still together at invite time.

My FH was invited to a wedding of an old work friend, just before we got engaged without a plus one. He asked her if he could bring me and she agreed to it, so we went. He would have known one other person at the wedding. When he introduced me to her, she totally blew me off and walked away when I was talking to her. I wish she would have just said no, I felt like I had imposed myself somewhere I was not wanted. It was totally awkward.

I usually hate "etiquette"...but i do have a strong opinion on this one. a friend is only inviting her friends. even if a friend is married, if she isn't friends with the partner they aren't invited! i told her people might be offended and not come, but she doesn't seem to care. she's friends with my FH too, but i wouldn't go to a wedding if he wasn't invited.

as for drawing the line at living together, engaged or married - i also find it hard to judge that those things necessarily mean a more serious relationship / entitlement.

we are doing like many others and using names, not "plus one"s. we will invite any s/os that have been together for 3 months as of our invite date. this will put them at least at 6 months for our wedding, which is often a serious relationship. we will also give a "plus one" to anyone who won't know a few other people. i want my guests to have a good time. weddings aren't fun without your partner, nor if you don't know anyone else!

We have a you have no ring, you no bring.. With a few exceptions if we are friends with the couple and each person would be invited individually. We cant have more than 170. Most of those without a plus one are family members that we are not very close to and are being forced to invite.

If we developed a positive relationship with the significant other AND the budget can accommodate, then a plus will be extended. If not, then the guest will have to decide if they wish to attend.

Ya, I was in a similar situation. I had a guest list (loose guest list) of around 400 people, pretty much just listing everyone I enjoyed the company of and giving a plus one to all singles and including names of serious relationships. My max capacity is 220, so I had a lot of cutting to do. I had some time so I just took it on a case by case basis. There are some guests of mine that are very concerned with etiquette so I knew to include a plus one for them. People like my college and high school friends who are not dating anyone will be more interested in catching up with old friends rather than bringing someone, so if I knew that they would know a lot of people and want to catch up, I cut their plus ones. It took time, but I got the list down to 240 and, accounting for 20% declining, I should be well in the clear.