plus ones?!

Wedding party only.

others? no. We put "Only named guests invited please" on the bottom of the RSVP card

I was actually a wedding guest told by close family I couldn't bring my husband. I can tell you it's not a good feeling. Many ppl no longer speak to my cousin because of it. While it's very expensive you may want to think about cutting down ur guest list so that u don't offend anyone you really care about

I think a lot of people might be offended if you didn't invite their SO. Especially your bridal party. So maybe they aren't sitting together at the reception but I'm sure they will still want them their to dance and hangout with. My FH was a best man a couple of years ago. We sat with the bride and groom along with the MOH and her boyfriend. The rest of the bridal party sat with the rest of the guests. This was done because the MOH's boyfriend didn't really know anyone else at the wedding. I thought it was a very nice gesture on the part of the couple.

Significant others should be invited if it's a serious relationship. Even if you don't know them, you need to find out their names and write them on the envelope, as opposed to saying "plus one." If the couple does break up, you don't need to worry about Joe Schmo because the invitation wasn't addressed to him.

If you are worried about breaking your budget, cut back on the 300.

I'm not letting anyone bring a "plus one". If they're in a serious relationship, engaged, or married, I'm writing both names on the invite. That way if they do break up you're not paying for a random person because only those named would be invited that way.

I think your bridal party should get a plus one regardless. They are typically paying a lot of money to support you and your day. They will want some one to dance with. Everyone has to travel between 2-4 hrs for my wedding. We gave people plus ones because it is awful traveling alone. So if people are traveling give them the plus one.

BP should definitely get their plus ones! Even if it is just a friend or date.

We are addressing our invites specific to who is invited...and on the RSVP card, we have an area that says, "___ seats have been reserved for you" or something close to that....

I also am worried about extra plus ones. Mostly CHILDREN. But we did have a family who comes as a family...all teens or adults, but only two of the adults were invited!!! (to two of my children's weddings...they are family friends)

The wedding party and anyone traveling over two hours are the only people getting a plus one. Anyone in a relationship over a year, engaged, or married is allowed to bring their significant other. I'm going through it with a cousin right now who just started dating a girl a few weeks ago and thinks she's getting an invite.

I went to a wedding that disallowed bringing a date. It was serious, engaged or married only.

I am considering this as well. So that my cousins don't bring their "fling of the month"

I am just including the cousins on the invite to my aunt and uncle (like a whole family invite).

I did get an invite once that said "Plus one? No ring, Don't bring" THAT was weird.

I would let the bridal party bring a date, but we are not allowing anyone to bring a date unless they are engaged or married. Now some friends will get their s/o invited because we are also friends with them, but if they broke up both would still be invited anyway.

Most people understand weddings are expensive and wont have a problem with this. I have been excluded from weddings and it never bothered me.

My rule was that you had to be dating for a year by the time we are sending out the invitations. We've had people get in relationships since we made the guest list, and while i would love to invite them, i just can't. we are inviting the SOs by name. there is no such thing as "and guest" on our list. we also didn't allow cousins to bring their SOs unless they were engaged or in one case common law married. only 1 person in the bridal party doesn't have a date, but he is not dating anyone

I'm also doing plus one if they are married or if they know absolutely NO ONE attending my wedding.

I don't feel comfortable inviting someone and making them sit alone the whole time.

We're doing similar to what Katie M. said, where you invite the significant other directly. We figured we know and care for the SOs of the important people in our life so they're worth inviting. I feel most understand that there is always an invite cutoff line. plus you can't worry about making everybody happy...it's your day!

Our guest list isn't as big as yours so everyone got a plus 1. I would hate for someone who didn't know anyone else to not have someone to talk to. We have a lot of people that have to travel from CA to NY so if they wanted to bring there SO we wanted to make sure they could.

I understand what you mean about the pricing at a hotel, ours is at one too. We set a limit at 120 and kept it at that. We already know some can't make it so there is a little breathing room already.

I'm doing the same as Nicey Sparkles, we have 4 guests that don't know anyone so they get plus ones. As for everyone else, they have to be married or living together to get the plus one. Weddings re expensive... I'm not paying for randoms to come to my wedding.

I think wedding party should always have a plus one, I just think it is rude not to because they are spenind a lot of money to be part of my day. I have single guest that I am not giving a plus one to. I am giving a plus one if guest are in a serious relationship, even is not married. Also if I have a guest that I know does not know anyone else I am giving them a plus one.

Plus one's are always a tricky situation. I would be careful with who you don't allow to have ones that are in relationships. For example, whenever my friend got married 5 years ago, in Napa (we're from Texas) she didn't allow anyone to have a plus one unless they were married or living together. My friend got engaged while she the other was planning and STILL wasn't allowed to bring her fiance. My boyfriend, who is now my future husband, wasn't invited either. Needless to say, it's still a sore subject for a lot of people.

On the other hand I TOTALLY understand what you're saying about random plus one's. For my wedding I am having plus one's for the entire wedding party and guests that have significant others. There will be lots of single people there so I don't feel bad about not giving some plus one's.

That actually happened to me.. my friend is getting married in may and said no plus ones unless ur married or engaged... and now that im engaged, im not sure if im going to get that plus one now or not! (it also doesnt help that my FH exgf is friends with the girl.. so all the more reason not to invite him) BUT she will be married for my wedding... so i have to invite them both regardless.. haha

this all is just driving me crazy... i had one girl to today tell me.. "i better be invited", who i havent talked to in years mind you! people have such balls, it amazes me.. i would never tell someone that.. even good friends!

Shaila- I totally agree! People are so ballsy it is quite unbelievable to me! I'm often left speechless. A lot of people have done the same to me- "I better be invited" or something of the like and I just laugh and say "We'll see!"

Most of my guests are married. The rest are under 18 but I am allowing plus one to them if they have been together for awhile. My 4 year old FBIL is bringing his little girlfriend because her family is invited too lol.