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Devoted March 2013

"Plus ones" that you don't know AT ALL? (small wedding)

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Kristin, on June 8, 2012 at 4:07 PM

I want opinions! We are planning to give everyone a "plus 1" because we want people to celebrate our day with their loved one (husband/wife/fiance/SO). All of my guests are either married, engaged, or in a LT relationship (currently dating at least a year.. although I suppose things could change...

I want opinions!

We are planning to give everyone a "plus 1" because we want people to celebrate our day with their loved one (husband/wife/fiance/SO). All of my guests are either married, engaged, or in a LT relationship (currently dating at least a year.. although I suppose things could change before the wedding etc if they broke up). We know all of these "plus 1s", and we would not mind sharing our wedding day with them.

Anyway, my FH has friends he wants to invite who are not (and most likely will not) be in a serious relationship by the time of our wedding. I really don't want random people that neither of us know (or know well) there. I feel like it makes our day less special. We will be having a very small welling (looking like 30-40 guests now), so even three or four randoms will stick out.

Would it be okay to not give a few people "plus 1"s at a small wedding, even though the majority will have one?

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Devoted March 2013
Kristin · on June 9, 2012 at 7:14 PM
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I think they would still have a good time without a date, but it might kind of be one of those "wtf, everyone else got a plus one but me?! (and a few others)" moments. I personally don't care (I know, I'm horrible), but the FH might not want that situation for a few of his friends. We haven't finalized the guest list and won't until we pick a place/caterer and know the per person cost though, so we will have to think more about this when the time comes. I decided to post because I am starting to rethink my "everyone should be able to bring someone" mindset, and I wanted to get opinions. Everyone has been really helpful
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Devoted February 2025
Gamer's girl · on June 10, 2012 at 12:38 AM
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Beautiful rule me and FH have. Nobody we don't, (or at least should) know. If My FH or I cannot Introduce you, We don't want you. Then again we have a total guest list of under 40, so not that big of a list.
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Devoted March 2013
Kristin · on June 10, 2012 at 2:04 AM
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Gamer's girl: I like that rule! We are having a small wedding too. It would be weird to be like... who's that girl at our wedding..?
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