Plus One's and Rsvp's

I personally asked people if they would mind coming solo, particularly my coworkers. I am close enough to the people I invited to have authentic and honest conversations. The fact is, we cannot afford to invite them and all of their SO's, but I wanted them to be a part of our special day. A couple asked if they could bring their spouses, but most were fine coming alone.

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Allie this person is being immature about this though. You kindly explained "no kids" not "just your kid can't come". Don't blame yourself for this childish behavior!

Just be careful about who you are excluding with plus-ones. My fiance received a wedding invitation from a friend and they explicitly only invited him. Since we are engaged and have actually been together longer than this couple had even known each other, he opted to RSVP "no" and didn't go. While budget restrictions are entirely understandable, it can be rude to exclude certain plus-ones. You'd be safer cutting your guest list than telling someone who is engaged that they can't bring their fiance.

If you're doing online RSVPs it's super easy to do that because you just only allow RSVPs for people on your guest lists and don't allow them to add anyone else. We did this, and just to be extra clear, wrote on our details cards "x seats have been reserved in your honor under the following name(s):" and we filled in the number of seats and then listed the names of the people who were invited by hand. We didn't want ANY confusion lol.

If you're doing mail RSVPs, you could do a similar thing but allowing them to answer "__ out of x attending." Mail RSVPs also have a place for guests to write their names (obviously lol) but you could write the name in for them to be extra clear. Would take time, but worth it in my opinion.

Be sure to also address the outside envelope to only people who are invited. i.e. don't write "The Smith Family" unless you're actually inviting the entire family.

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Great idea! Thank you!

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I think this is exactly what I'm going to do so there is 0 confusion. I've already had a ton of people assume they get to bring a date.