Plus One's and Rsvp's

Make sure you write in the # on the RSVP card. For instance. "We have reserved ____ seats in your honor". Then you write in the # you invite, before you send them out.

I agree with Lorri, but also, in addition to that, follow up with people who rsvp too many people and gently explain that due to budget reasons, you unfortunately cannot accommodate for unknown plus ones. Chances are they'll be surprised and touched that you reached out to them personally to explain.

I did what Lorri suggested. And then, as if that wasn’t enough (because some people can be clueless), I also put:
__ of __ joyfully accept
__ of __ regretfully decline
I will write in the # on the 2nd blank of each line.

We did online RSVPs, so when they sign in, there's no room to add anyone. If someone wants to inquire about a plus one, they have to contact us.

View Quoted Comment We are doing that to but all single guest have plus ones

I have received a lot of advice myself today so I will pass it on to you lol.

I really liked that someone told me to say “we have received _ seat(s) for you / your family.” Very smart, straight to the point, and effective. I also plan on saying in a very friendly way that we want to have an intimate experience so we only want our close friends and family that we specifically invited to attend. Good luck! Its hard.

View Quoted Comment We only did plus ones for spouses and significant others that we knew. All other singles just have to mingle! LOL! It's mainly longtime friends and family anyway...

RSVP cards should have the amount of guest that can attend to avoid plus one’s that are not on your list.

View Quoted Comment If your married it’s not a plus one.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for clarifying. Some of my married guests, particularly coworkers, are coming solo. I asked them before inviting them and they decided to make it a girls day out since most of the spouses work on Saturdays.

On the RSVP cards, I wrote the names specifically of those invited. If they had a guest designated to them, I just wrote & one guest etc. Then in the RSVP section of our site, I have the guest option linked to their invitation with a section to write the name of their guest.

View Quoted Comment Thi is exactly what I did for my coworkers. We're a very tight knit group so I couldn't imagine not having them there, but inviting 5 coworkers plus their partners was a bit too much. They were cool with making it a girl's day.

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Yes, this is the best way to do this. I didn't do this and I had to have an uncomfortable conversation with a close family friend (he's like an uncle) because we didn't have children at the wedding except by husband's nieces who were the 2 flower girls. He said no problem that he and his new wife would make arrangements for their daughter. I said thank you so much, can't wait to see you, he was super nice and understanding... he NEVER showed up to the wedding, never called or apologized or has even congratulated me since! And I saw pics of him at a friends house party the night of the wedding on facebook. He hasn't even spoken to my dad whose friend he he's been since little kids...

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We did the same. Most people are having to travel too, so I doubt we will get a lot of extras.

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This is a good way to do it, IMO. To me it seems like the most polite yet efficient way.

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EXACTLY! Ours is a brunch theme, so it's like a brunch date with you and your girls!

Jut address the invite to only the people invited. And on the RSVP cards say "___ out of ____ attending" and fill out the second line.

I am doing the addressing and the reserved number of seats printed on the rsvps so if someone tries to scribble it out and add it'll be even more of an lol when I literally have the numbers printed on. I am also putting a FAQ on my website about if they can bring a plus one. I wanted the answer to just be "no" but I lengthened it to say something along the lines of our wedding is our nearest and dearest.

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If they have a SO they're not single. Their SO should be invited, whether or not you know them.

This is kind of different but also the same. I dont want any kids at my wedding beside my own and a select few (who know who they are) so on the RSVP cards I wrote "please keep in mind this is a 21+ event" so they know not to bring their children