Plus one when there was no "and guest" listed on the card.

I don't think it's rude. everyone gets in an UPROAR when people ask the question about not giving a plus one to people. I personally do not think it's that big of a deal if you are already going to know people there. If you don't know anyone there then I would think you probably should give them a plus one but if they're going to know people there then I do not think it's as big of a deal as everyone makes on here. My husband HATES weddings lol....if we got an invitation for a wedding and the person didn't include him on the invitation he would be ecstatic haha. it's different for everyone i guess.

Thats why I'm having people RSVP through our wedding website. It doesn't let them just add people. That way they have to actually physically contact me if they want to bring someone extra. I'm willing to work with people, but if I'm not aware of them having a significant other, I'm not including a plus one.

Why did you invite someone who does hard drugs and doesn't talk to you??

Too late now. I agree with the other girls to wait and see how many declines you get. Otherwise, you are just going to have to be honest with them that you can't accommodate their boyfriends because of space/size requirements.

The problem is that the bride and groom (in general, not just OP) are:

- assuming a guest's relationship status. For example, my friend Stephanie could have been dating someone and perhaps not have told me. It's hard to grasp that in the age of social media, not everyone proclaims their status loud and proud.

- deciding who they think DESERVES a plus one. So if you aren't in an "approved" relationship for perhaps an arbitrary length of time, you don't deserve a plus one. Which is kind of shitty. Especially when you consider that they are coming to celebrate you and your love for each other.

- automatically assuming that their single guests should be having a great time at a social event they are only "allowed" to attend alone. Nevermind that weddings are just easier and more fun to navigate with a date.

- acting self-righteous that the guest should be glad they were invited in the first place.

Overall, it's just a selfish and rude thing to do. If you know you will have capacity constraints, scale back the guest list. If you know you are on a budget, scale back the guest list.

(OP, this comment is not directed at your situation).

It's been said a hundred times already, but I'll say it again.

You want this person to come and celebrate your relationship, while at the same time you are disrespecting her relationship by not allowing her to bring her boyfriend.

Think about it :-)

This doesn't make sense. OP invites over 200 people to her wedding, but won't allow a few acquaintances to bring a guest? I won't call them friends because OP would would things about their lives - I can't imagine inviting people to my wedding that I knew nothing about anymore - no mater how close I was to them in high school. A wedding isn't a reunion.

These people don't even talk to you, and are into hard drugs and drinking and driving, and yet you invited them to your wedding. Definitely makes sense.

In any case, people in relationships should have been invited with their significant others. The one girl is pregnant for goodness sake.

Sorry, but YOU are in the wrong here. If these people are in relationships with these people, then they must be invited as guests as well. It is considered extremely rude to invite guests without their significant other, no matter how long they have been dating. Who are you to judge the seriousness of a relationship? And it's a wedding! It's a celebration of love and commitment and these guests want to celebrate your love with the person they love. These significant others must be invited.

And by the way, a PLUS ONE is NOT the same as a significant other. A plus one may be given to someone who does NOT have a significant other, and are optional. Truly single guests do not require a plus one. It would be indicated on the invite as "and guest". If the guest has a SO, then the significant other should be named on the invitation.

My fiance was invited to a wedding last year by one of his friends from high school. I was not invited but we'd been together for well over a year at the time. My fiance was livid I wasn't invited with him and he was going to decline the wedding invitation all together. He said he didn't want go without me. He ended up casually mentioning to his friend that he'd been in a relationship for a while and if they had room, could he bring me with him. Thankfully the groom said of course, so we both got to attend. The moral of the story is--guests asking to bring their significant others is not rude. It's the bride/groom doing the inviting ignorantly who are being rude to their guests.

So many dilemmas,so little time.

Why are you inviting people you hardy even talk to any more?

Why are you inviting people in relationships by themselves?

And then, why are people writing in guests you didn't invite and YOU feel bad about telling them no.

IMHO, which is about as relevant as anyone else's....these guests lists get out of control because people invite groups instead of individuals... all the friends from HS (I can tell you i speak to about three of mine, and we went to an experimental school that was all very close)...all the work friends (I literally speak to no one from any of my former workplaces.....cousins and relatives you haven't regularly dealt with in years. Why do you even want them at your wedding? This isn't a reunion, as June Bride said. It's a milestone event for your families, an intimate commitment for you and having all these random people who don't really mean anything to you anymore is weird and expensive.

Your close friends and family should be invited, probably with guests/significant others. They'll be happy to be there (as opposed to those other people who just don't have anything better to do, oh wait! Free alcohol! Yippee), they'll be engaged (no pun intended) and you'll have a better time than looking at a massive group of semi disinterested people who will be back on their cellphones before the appetizer is dropped.

Man, you're just airing out all of their dirty laundry, aren't ya?

The rule for my guest list (we have about 200) is that if you haven't been dating someone for at least a year, then you aren't getting a plus one. It's your day, make the call and tell them that you don't have the room for the extra guest and that you included "& Guest" for those SO's that you felt were significant to you and your FH.

@Brianna that is ridiculous logic! So if there is a couple that has been together for 10 months and they're engaged, they're not both invited to your wedding?? So rude.

And you want her to tell them that their boyfriends weren't "significant" enough to be invited? Woooow…

Worst advice I've ever seen on here.

My question was how to let people know I don't have room for extras, not whether I'm in the right or the wrong or how much of an ass I am.

I know people will take what they please and interpret posts how they wish and everyone's entitled to feeling however they do.

However, I spoke to both girls and said it was fine if they brought their plus one. So everything's just peachy.

Going places solo is not the end of the world. Have your bridal party call (cause they're just the messengers, so it will be less awkward and people are less likely to argue) and say, "Squish wanted me to call. She is so sorry, and she's just not allowing plus ones because of venue space. She really hopes you'll understand."

I agree with you @Squish on this one. People should know that weddings are expensive and most often (if not always) on a cost per person basis.

Call them and be honest that you just do not have the space, but if they really want to bring their S/O to the wedding they can pay for it. (that is not rude at all) It's rude to put a plus 1 on the RSVP when the invite was just for them.

Personally, I've gone to weddings alone, and its fine. People need to be more secure with their self about going somewhere by theirselves. If you don't know the S/O you are NOT obligated to invite them to YOUR wedding! (unless they are in the wedding party)

Fine =/= fun.

Not to jump on any bandwagon's here but, my concern is not the whole plus one thing. It is the guest list itself. If this girl is close enough to you to be invited, wouldn't you want to make sure that she has a way home that wont risk her life or the lives of others? Say she does come solo, gets wasted and crashes, hurting someone. The extra money would be worth not having that risk.

I don't get why people are getting their panties in a twist about the plus one and SO opinion. We made sure all who are married, engaged and in a relationship where we both know the couple, they're all invited. If I have a friend that I know is into someone that she started dating but, really wants to spend their time with them, I'd rather invite them so I can celebrate with my friend. Don't stress about it but, if you want these girls to come, I'd say just let it go. With all of the other things that you're going to worry about, don't let this live rent free in your mind.