Plus one we don't approve of

If they are in an established relationship, then you unfortunately need to respect him and treat them as a unit. My BIL's wife is a c***, and I still had to invite her. She refused to come. If this girl is so bad you may luck out and she won't show up.

Significant others are not plus ones and splitting up a couple is extremely rude.

Are they in a relationship? Why don't you like her?

WWPD? What would Pepeto do? Ok, you can't do that. It's both or neither and hope she declines. But I can't speak for Pepeto.

Tough situation! Is she normally at family events? You don't have to give everyone a plus one. When it comes time to addressing invitations or save the dates, address it to only him. Maybe when it gets closer to your day you can decide if you want here there.

Unless she's a sexual predator or a convicted felon who will steal the card box or unattended purses, yes... you have to give him an invitation that includes her. Trust me, you'll be so busy you won't notice her.

I hate my sisters boyfriend (he drinks too much and treats her crappy) but she still deserved to bring her boyfriend. She was my MOH. I barely saw him. Honest.

The way I see it you have two options...

Option one, give him the plus one and expect her to be there. But I would straight up tell him that if she causes any drama... She's out the door and assign someone, if he chooses to bring her, to escort her out when you see fit. Your wedding is no place for that. Which leads to option number two.

It's YOUR wedding, it's your choice! You are not obligated to give anyone a plus one.

Best of luck!

@Brea you can't "assign someone" to remove her. Unless you're hiring a bouncer.

ETA hit the button too soon. Also, no, your advice is incorrect. If someone is in a relationship, etiquette dictates that you ARE obligated to invite their significant other. It ceases to be YOUR day as soon as you have a reception and invite other people, since the reception is a party for your guests (not for you).

Wait wait wait... at this time are they on or off? That would dictate whether you need to invite her or not. If they are on yea she gets to come if they are off no she does not get to come.

I am one of those people who split up a "couple" and I can tell you it has become tons of drama. My best friend has been dating a guy for a year and a half, they live in a different state so never met him, found out in the course of prodding for his last name for the invitation that he is married...not separated, not estranged...just "one day going to leave his wife for her"...sure. So unless it's something like that or as described by Richard and they are "on" you are probably going to have to invite her.

Truthfully I think you have to invite her. It's really not your place to decide who's right for him or if their relationship is valid.

I can't stand FH's cousin's girlfriend, but she's still invited. I'm just seating them far away from the sweetheart table.

Depends on the drama.

If the only drama is that people don't like her and will feel uncomfortable, then everyone is gonna have to suck it up.

If the drama is more substantial, you might have a reason ... but be prepared for even more drama if you say she can't come.

We thought we had a good reason for asking FMIL not to bring her new boyfriend (seriously, she left FFIL for another man she left online like 5 minutes ago, and we haven't even met him yet. And FFIL is a bit of a toxic person when he drinks, and we didn't want a war). Anyway ... FMIL screamed at FH for like 2 hours over voice mails.

She's not a plus one. If you really can't stomach her there then you invite neither of them. However, if it's just a case of you not liking her but she's still a person that can behave in public, invite them and forget about it. You won't have any time to even notice her.

J has a cousin who was dating a drama llama. Oh the anguish I let her cause me! Came a day I realized she was his choice, they were a package and anything she did to stir trouble would only reflect on her. Come the day, she was perfectly behaved. Which meant I lost some money in a bet, but still it was a good way to lose.

Pepeto would say let it go because come your wedding you won't even notice her. And my phone recognizes Pepeto, how cool is that?

Unfortunately you have to suck it up on this one.

Give him a +1 and he can bring whomever he wants. You have some time before responses are due, maybe they won't be together again at the point. Also remember that if you will be talking with so many people at your wedding, you won't have time to say more than "hi" to her. If you're concerned about her behavior, be honest (and respectful) with your cousin about your concerns.

Listen chica. You need to bite the bullet and be the bigger person here.

You don't pick and choose who gets a +1.

You don't get to say who is in a "real relationship"

And you don't get to be rude by picking and choosing which social units to recognize.

There is a girl whom one of my FH groomsmen is dating. Seriously in a relationship. We hated each other before they got into a relationship. I can't stand her. We have blocked each other from facebook.

Guess who I invited to my wedding.

If you have a good relationship with your cousin you should just invite her. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet. I'm in a scenario with my sons wife. Out of respect for him I will allow her to come. Even though I feel the way you do.